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Skye
27-11-19, 01:40 PM
I’m just introducing myself, been so depressed recently and just wanting to chat with fellow sufferers.

Jaquaia
27-11-19, 01:51 PM
Hi and welcome! You will always find a friendly ear here

Skye
27-11-19, 01:54 PM
Thank you Jaquaia, it’s just I’ve been so depressed again recently and anxious, but I am calm at the moment thankfully...Depression comes in many forms doesn’t it? ..even for one person it can change from hour to hour.

Suzi
27-11-19, 02:06 PM
Hi and welcome to DWD. Have you been to see your Dr about how you are feeling?
What do you mean about it changing from hour to hour?

Skye
27-11-19, 02:15 PM
Hi Suzi, no, I’m supposed to be going back regarding my depression, but haven’t managed to pick up the phone yet to make an appointment. I’m not new to depression/anxiety, but I’ve been reasonable for the past 4 years or so. By hour to hour I mean I can start feeling really low if something affects me or become anxious, which is I suppose true for other people too?

Mira
27-11-19, 02:37 PM
Hi there, nice to meet you. We all know how it can be and know what its like. So there is lots of understanding here.

I do hope you can manage to pick up the phone. You deserve it. Trust me.

Suzi
27-11-19, 03:15 PM
What's stopping you from picking up the phone? - I know that sounds like a stupid question, or one from someone who doesn't understand, I was just wondering if there was something specific stopping you?

Skye
27-11-19, 03:28 PM
What's stopping you from picking up the phone? - I know that sounds like a stupid question, or one from someone who doesn't understand, I was just wondering if there was something specific stopping you?

Well, I’ve been here before and got the t-shirt etc etc, so there isn’t anything they can do for me medication wise anyway, I can’t take them because of high pressure in my eyes and the side affects can cause this with me. The waiting list with counselling is at least 3 months, so by the time I get to see someone I may not need the service. I can only help myself at the end of the day, so that’s why. I’m so (swear)(swear)(swear)(swear)ed off otherwise and don’t get any understanding from my husband and family, initially yes, but after that it’s “get on with it” I’m afraid. Struggling so much today as so much to do in the house. I’m not working now due to my anxiety and depression and I’m annoying myself here, so I’m sure I’ll be annoying you too. I’d bang my head on the wall if I thought it would help! ;(

Suzi
27-11-19, 03:33 PM
You aren't annoying me at all! It sounds like you've loads going on. Is there no medication options open to you?

OldMike
27-11-19, 04:36 PM
Hi Skye you'll find a lot of friendly people here on DWD always ready to listen.

I'm sure (though I may be wrong) that there are anti-depressants that don't affect the pressure in your eyes (glaucoma)

Sometimes working can help reduce depression it depends on the job and the people you are working with plus the companies' attitude tp mental health. There is no definitive answer as we are all different.

Skye
27-11-19, 04:53 PM
I was supposed to get some antidepressants that didn’t affect eye pressure and I brought them home and looked on the paperwork with the tablets and it said in the side effects that they can cause pressure in the eyes, so I rang them back and said I couldn’t take them. I struggled for months and took, I think magnesium myself (possibly a placebo affect as I thought they helped) I was getting panic attacks as I’d witnessed my cat being hit and killed by a car. A year on and I have now gone into a bad depression. I still see the accident, but not as often and also it has a knock on effect of thinking about my deceased father who died at 50 and several other people who have died that I’ve been close to.

magie06
27-11-19, 05:50 PM
I think this time of the year is difficult for lots and lots of people. The nights are long and dark and mostly raining and cold. Christmas makes me especially think of those who have passed before us and that makes me sad. What if they were still around? What advice would they give us now? How would our lives be different if we had their guidance?
I'm also sad as another year comes to an end, and what is different now, compared to last year?
But I also try to look on the brighter side. Once the 21st of December has passed, the evenings start to get brighter, there are endless possibilities with the new year stretching ahead, and the Christmas lights are still up, with their twinkling multicolours.
It's difficult but there is hope. Please don't give up.

Paula
27-11-19, 07:04 PM
Hi and welcome. It’s not the same, I know, but I have swollen optic nerves due to excess fluid on my brain, and I’m on 2 anti depressants and a mood stabiliser. There really are a lot of ADs available and all work differently so is it worth talking to a specialist (if you haven’t already) to see if there’s any way you can be helped? As you suffer from anxiety, maybe helping to treat that could help you overall itms?

Suzi
27-11-19, 07:28 PM
Have you had grief counselling to help you work through that?

Skye
27-11-19, 10:52 PM
Thank you everyone for your replies, I appreciate you all. I will certainly look into it again regarding antidepressants to help with my mood Paula, sorry you are going through that, and Suzi I haven’t had grief counselling. I can’t understand some of the people in my life who say “it was only a cat” I have been through hell because of the way my precious cat was killed and he was like my baby. I do have a son too and I don’t really know why it has affected me so much, but it has and I’ve never been so affected by flashbacks before to this degree, playing over and over in my mind that I kept and get now still. It just hits me out of the blue! I feel I was at a low ebb prior to it, so I think this played a big part!

Suzi
27-11-19, 11:26 PM
It sounds as if you've had lots of things that have happened which have built up trauma after trauma. Have you ever had talking therapy to help you through any of it? How old is your son?

Skye
28-11-19, 01:18 AM
I think this time of the year is difficult for lots and lots of people. The nights are long and dark and mostly raining and cold. Christmas makes me especially think of those who have passed before us and that makes me sad. What if they were still around? What advice would they give us now? How would our lives be different if we had their guidance?
I'm also sad as another year comes to an end, and what is different now, compared to last year?
But I also try to look on the brighter side. Once the 21st of December has passed, the evenings start to get brighter, there are endless possibilities with the new year stretching ahead, and the Christmas lights are still up, with their twinkling multicolours.
It's difficult but there is hope. Please don't give up.

Thank you Maggie......well said (talk)

Suzi
28-11-19, 09:49 AM
How are you today?

OldMike
28-11-19, 10:32 AM
Loosing a pet is always traumatic more so if you see them knocked down, my cat Jenny was knocked down outside my house, I didn't see it but it still saddens me after all these years even though she was an old cat (about 20) the loss was still as great. (bear)