View Full Version : Chapter 2: the book addict rejoins the world
I love that your priority is to move your books before any of your other possession :)
Jaquaia
21-01-20, 11:02 AM
You sound so sad... How was the appointment?
I love being there with him and the children. It already feels like home.
I love that your priority is to move your books before any of your other possession :)
Of course!!! Would you expect anything else from me?? ;)
That and there's already loads packed...
It's brilliant that you feel comfortable there lovely... You must be counting down weeks and days...
Jaquaia
21-01-20, 03:02 PM
I am! We're going to start gradually moving my stuff in next month so I can start getting it unpacked and start spending more time there so the children can get used to things over time rather than it being a sudden thing. Plus it won't interfere too much with uni.
The children are funny though. Last Thursday they came out of school and asked where I was so J told them "at home". A walked into the house shouting for me and T was disappointed when he realised J meant my home and not theirs. When we picked them up the Friday of the panto, A came running out of school shouting my name, took zero notice of her dad but came straight for me. This Friday, T said about granny and grandpa staying with them so J could pick me up, hence J coming for me early. It made me sad yesterday though. I was sat helping Thomas with his homework and J told me that he doesn't remember her ever sitting and helping him with his homework before. I've also made it clear to T that if he isn't happy about me moving in, it's really important he says so and that he won't be in trouble.
I've always loved sitting with mine doing homework - even if it's stuff I have no idea about (simultaneous quadratic equations atm for eg or 3D trigonometry with Ben)because I love listening to them explaining things and just being in the same space they are and when they "get" something it's an amazing feeling. I'm so glad you're showing him how important his homework is and how important they are. They need that.
Jaquaia
21-01-20, 05:57 PM
I think the world of them both already.
T came out of school and asked when I'm staying next :)
You are exactly what those babies need....
Jaquaia
21-01-20, 08:29 PM
Had a tutorial this evening and about 15 minutes in, T messaged me to tell me he misses me.
I may have become a little emotional...
Awwwww!!!! You really are making such an amazing difference to them and they haven't known you for long....
Jaquaia
21-01-20, 08:42 PM
They're lovely children. They can be utter pains in the arse at times but which children can't?! They mean the world to me already
Jaquaia
21-01-20, 09:26 PM
I never expected that, certainly not yet!
It tells how involved the children are with you already. What a great compliment is that. Not just to you but your whole family. You are already a unit. And as I see it this is something you deserve truly because you are such a warm awesome person.
Jaquaia
22-01-20, 10:20 AM
I'm ok. Tired. At appointment number 3 in 2 days, chest clinic with my mother! Then after here it's bladder nurse, then home, lunch, uni work, tea, tutorial and maybe some relaxing reading!
Jaquaia
22-01-20, 03:42 PM
Have to admit, I've had a nap!!! Was suddenly exhausted and couldn't keep my eyes open
Jaquaia
22-01-20, 05:10 PM
A isn't happy with me as I'm not there...
Have you discussed with the kids you moving in sooner?
Jaquaia
22-01-20, 05:23 PM
Not yet. Once I've got my assignments out of the way I can start going through my stuff properly and we can start moving my stuff across. Sarah is coming up for my mums birthday and Talia is going with her then.
I think it's amazing that they want you to be there all the time! :)
Jaquaia
22-01-20, 09:10 PM
I'm a bit taken aback at how quickly they've taken to me!
I made sure I messaged T for when he finished school. He had misplaced the teddy I gave him but didn't want to tell me as he was worried I'd be cross. I wanted to make sure he knew that he didn't need to worry as I wasn't cross and that I misplace stuff all the time.
Head is blown now, almost an hour of my tutor talking about descriptive and inferential statistics and how to write them up and analyse them! I'm going to be dreaming about p values tonight!!!
magie06
22-01-20, 09:50 PM
Good night sweetie. I hope your dreams are filled with all the lovely things you are going to do very, very soon (and not about boring stuff).
Aww poor T! I'm so glad that you reassured him, it's so sad he's so worried about something like that.
Jaquaia
23-01-20, 08:42 AM
He's found it now. It only got misplaced as they stayed at granny and grandpas Monday night and he took it with him. He even took it to Shildon with us on Sunday! But he shouldn't be so worried and I blame her for that. Her who is being really nice and reasonable at the moment... it's unnerving...
Driving lesson soon and it's foggy! Help! Then J is taking me for lunch, then it's back to my uni work! I had a chat via email with my tutor after the tutorial last night. She's given me a 2 week extension and will ring me next week if I need help. She's lovely!
I'm really glad that you've talked things over with your tutor - does that mean more time to pack and start moving stuff over?
Jaquaia
23-01-20, 02:54 PM
Not anytime soon really, her assignment is one of 3...
Jaquaia
23-01-20, 05:46 PM
Result!!! My exam is in Hull!!! (party)
magie06
23-01-20, 08:31 PM
Is that near you?
Jaquaia
23-01-20, 08:40 PM
It's my home town. My anxiety has been pretty high since I got the email yesterday telling me the venues were being released as I was expecting Leeds or York. It's a huge relief as I know exactly where it is.
Got a letter from my consultant today too. My ultrasounds showed no active disease in my hands and wrists so she's dropping my methotrexate down to 20mg from my next prescription and I'm to see how I get on with it. The ultrasound showed "tendinopathic changes" in my ankles (whatever that means) so she's referred me to the physio.
YAY for your exam in Hull! :)
How do you feel about the drop in metho?
Yay physio... ???
Jaquaia
23-01-20, 09:59 PM
Honestly? I'm unsure. Lots of what ifs going through my mind. 25mg didn't work on its own, they had to add hydroxychloroquine too, so what if the drop kicks everything off again? Maybe 25mgs is what was needed to get it under control. But there's only one way to find out. And if I do start flaring again I can ring the rheumatology nurse, though they're reluctant to give me steroids because of my MH
Likewise with physio, my concern is they'll just blame my weight...
You’ve lost loads, so they can’t really say that, surely?. And, tbh, I’ve never had a physio or osteopath blame my weight for any of the issues I’ve had. I’ve found they just deal with the issue at hand ie exercises
Jaquaia
23-01-20, 10:48 PM
I've had my weight blamed for various things. It's why I never got a second opinion on my hip as they dismissed the fact it only hurts around TOTM and just blamed my weight.
But you’ve lost loads, so, if it was the weight, it would make more sense that things like your ankles would be improving.
Jaquaia
23-01-20, 11:06 PM
It would. It's not my experience though. Going to try not to think about it anyway, there's no point until I get my appointment through.
Hunni, all you can do is give it a go and see - as you've said you can always go back up again....
Oh I totally understand the weight thing, but as Paula has said, you've lost so much....
magie06
24-01-20, 01:39 PM
What have you planned for the w/e? Are you going to see J or are you resting? You've put in a very busy week and I'm worried that your battery is almost flat.
Jaquaia
24-01-20, 03:10 PM
The weekend is mostly uni work. I have an assignment due on Thursday and one the following Monday. J is popping to see me tomorrow though and I'm going to my sisters on Sunday as Scarlett keeps asking for me. She seems to like me changing her nappy...
magie06
24-01-20, 03:11 PM
That's so sweet. How old is she now?
She loves her aunty! Awwwwww
Jaquaia
24-01-20, 03:20 PM
She's 2 and a half now. She asked my mum where I was on Thursday...
"At home"
"Why?"
"Why? Do you want to see her?"
"Yes"
"She'll come and see you Sunday"
"To change my nappy?"
Love you too kid!
OldMike
24-01-20, 07:29 PM
(rofl) (rofl) (rofl) I can laugh because I've never changed a nappy.
Jaquaia
24-01-20, 08:00 PM
Changing nappies has never phased me.
J has let me know that Cruella has read my messages to T and isn't happy. Apparently me reassuring him that I wasn't cross with him about the bear means I was inferring she would have got cross with him (which she would have) and that I'm trying to replace her...
She's always going to take things the wrong way love, it was never going to be easy or straightforward.
magie06
24-01-20, 08:39 PM
If you had been cross with him, she would still say the same thing. She's evil and if life was a panto, she'd be the wicked stepmother, not you.
Jaquaia
24-01-20, 08:58 PM
Magie, that made me smile.
I'd just like a day where she didn't need to be mentioned
That’s unlikely to happen just yet, lovely. You’ll get there.just be strong, together (bear)
On the plus side, you’re not in the situation Si has always been in with Katie’s dad (giggle)
Jaquaia
24-01-20, 10:01 PM
I'm struggling a bit today. I'm focusing on money issues when I move in and it's making me want to say we should wait until I've managed to pay off some debt.
Why? Surely you’re in this relationship together, warts and all?
Jaquaia
25-01-20, 07:22 AM
Because it's me?
Jaquaia
25-01-20, 10:22 AM
I tried. He said the same as Paula and was smug when I showed him Paula's reply!
Lol! She is right though lol But I'm glad you told him!
Lol! She is right though lol
THANK you. Now how do I get a certificate? (giggle)
Talk to Sarah, that's her department, I just award chufty badges ;)
I tried...... maybe I’m just not worthy;)
Jaquaia
25-01-20, 11:05 AM
(giggle)
Strugglingmum
25-01-20, 12:21 PM
THANK you. Now how do I get a certificate? (giggle)
Flip me. 2 of you that are always right???!!!!!! ........... getting dangerous round here! (giggle)
Jaquaia
25-01-20, 12:27 PM
(rofl)
Jaquaia
25-01-20, 08:52 PM
Had another chat to J today about moving in. He's said we'll manage fine on his wages, even with my bills to pay and he wants me with him. So I guess that is settled!
Hooray! - Not that I doubted it at all!
Jaquaia
25-01-20, 09:24 PM
It's just me being me. My mood has been pretty low so thinking TOTM is due. I know J has said my mood concerns him sometimes. But he made it quite clear that he would rather work some overtime or take on commission work if we needed the money, then put off my moving in.
Thats brilliant so have you thought of a date yet
Good. So when are you moving in?
Jaquaia
25-01-20, 11:45 PM
We're going to start moving my stuff when he picks my up on his long weekend, so in around 2 weeks.
magie06
26-01-20, 11:14 AM
(party)(y)(clap)
Woohoo!!!! That's so exciting!
Jaquaia
26-01-20, 02:16 PM
It really is!!! Her stepdad is picking up the rest of her stuff today and then she's completely gone, other then what may be in the loft and the summerhouse.
Scarlett has barely left me alone! We've played games, she's shown me her new bed, she made me get in her new bed and hide under the quilt with her! We've played scaring her, I got chosen to take her to the toilet... exhausted now!!!
You could start taking a bag of your things when he picks you up lol
Jaquaia
26-01-20, 02:54 PM
I'm meeting him from work on Thursday so I'm going to fill my bag up with other things. Then the week after my mums birthday, I'm staying his long weekend. So he's picking me up after my driving lesson and we're going to load the car up. It's exciting!!!
Jaquaia
27-01-20, 11:59 AM
Trying to print out my analysis table so I don't have to sit with my laptop all day but my printer is being a dick. Currently waiting for the software to reinstall so I can try again. Fed up already
Technology issues are a complete pita! Hope it's sorted...
How are you feeling today lovely?
Jaquaia
27-01-20, 12:36 PM
Not sorted, given up on it. I'll just work into my notebook. A print job won't delete so it's not letting anything else through to the printer.
I'm ok. Just psyching myself up to start my assignment. On the plus side, I've got rid of a stack of papers from uni and school while I was waiting for the software to reinstall.
Can you unplug the printer, count to 10 and restart it?
Jaquaia
27-01-20, 01:20 PM
Tried that several times. It can't even do a diagnose and repair!
Jaquaia
27-01-20, 03:03 PM
Never mind. I have 70 words. Only another 1730 to go...
OldMike
27-01-20, 03:05 PM
Can you unplug the printer, count to 10 and restart it?
That's my solution though I usually count to 60 as minute might do what 10 seconds doesn't (giggle)
Would counting to ten and bashing it with a hammer help?? (giggle)
Jaquaia
27-01-20, 07:53 PM
Not really but it was tempting!!!
Jaquaia
27-01-20, 10:02 PM
I was right. TOTM. No wonder my mood hasn't been good over the past week or so.
I thought you were going to talk to the doctor about that?...
Jaquaia
27-01-20, 11:47 PM
Getting an appointment is a nightmare. And with meeting the children, Eleanor arriving, Christmas and uni work, I'd forgotten
Can you make the call today then?
Call today and get the first appointment you can and then call each day to see if you can get an earlier one?
Jaquaia
28-01-20, 10:27 AM
It's not an emergency. I'll keep checking online, and if not, I'm changing doctors soon so will need to see someone to get my meds represcribed
Fair enough... Have you found a new GP yet?
Jaquaia
28-01-20, 11:14 AM
Not yet. We're going to get new patient forms next time J orders his meds. The annoying thing is I can't have my meds sent to the chemist attached as there is only one chain of pharmacies that has the contract to supply my AD
Could you get all the meds except your AD sent to the chemist? Or maybe find another chemist that’s nearby that do supply them?
Jaquaia
28-01-20, 12:22 PM
There's one in Beverley so I'll just ask for my meds to be sent there. There's also one in Driffield and Market Weighton so it will be fine.
AS long as you've got it sorted lovely....
Jaquaia
28-01-20, 02:54 PM
It's easily sorted, a bit awkward with me not driving yet but doable.
That’s what doing things together is all about ;)
Jaquaia
28-01-20, 05:55 PM
OMGOMGOMG!!!! Mark Morriss is playing an acoustic set with Adam Devlin in Beverley on my birthday!!! On my birthday!!! 10 minutes from where I'll be living!!!!
And Hull in August!!! But Beverley!!! On my actual birthday!!!!
I may be a little excited...
So, might there be tickets for your birthday??
Jaquaia
28-01-20, 07:04 PM
"Are you booking them?"
"Me??? You could get tickets for my birthday present!"
Who said I can't do subtle?! (giggle)
Good for you! That does sound so cool!
Jaquaia
28-01-20, 07:44 PM
Well when I'm buying him an £85 loco for Christmas, it's only fair!
Jaquaia
28-01-20, 09:49 PM
I'm being good. I have around 500 words done but I'm struggling to focus on the various theories of depression I have to write about, so the laptop is off, the textbooks are away, and I'm going to settle down with a fun book.
Though this module has made me think I would like to do the mental health route rather than the psychology route so I think my next step will be the MSc in Mental Health Science :)
I’m impressed! Listening to your body!
That is a great treat for your birthday. And that makes thinking what to get you real easy :)
How are you today love? How's the uni work going?
Jaquaia
29-01-20, 12:05 PM
I'm 2/3 of the way through the methods table and a quarter of the way through the essay, so getting there!
Woohoo! Go you!!!! You can do it!! Oh and it's probably time to remind you that you need a drink...
Jaquaia
29-01-20, 01:23 PM
Have a drink. Gone out for my hair cutting!
OOO how's the hair looking?
Jaquaia
29-01-20, 05:17 PM
Wish I could but the hairdresser never bothered showing up. She should have been at my dads cousins by half 12 and only bothered letting us know about 20 to 2. And not even via a phone call, she texted my dads cousins daughter and asked her to pass the message on instead... so I'm going to start using the hairdressers J uses instead.
I'm annoyed as it's almost 2 hours I could have spent on my assignment...
Jaquaia
29-01-20, 10:11 PM
Still working. I'm around 500 words short on my essay and 100 words over on my research methods table. Editing down should be straight forward and I need to cover the neurotrophic and monoamine theories of depression with evidence in those 500 words so it's doable. Just starting to flag now.
Then maybe you ought to stop ....
Jaquaia
29-01-20, 10:32 PM
I've stopped. Settling down with a relaxing book for a little while
Hope you're snuggled in bed and sleeping x
Jaquaia
30-01-20, 11:44 AM
Question 1 edited down, the essay is over the 500 word mark, and Scarlett has sat on my textbooks!!!
Oh and most of today's lesson was at pass standard ;)
Woohoo! Those are brilliant things! :)
Jaquaia
30-01-20, 02:45 PM
Submitted!!! Looking at my mum dropping me off at the station as my dad has to go for an emergency endoscopy so will spend a couple of hours at Costa while I wait for my train and finish the reading for my next assignment
Hope your Dad is ok love?
Off to J's?
Jaquaia
30-01-20, 03:44 PM
I am. There until Monday.
Not sure. He had a phone call yesterday calling him in for it. Ended up at the hospital with them as my mum was flapping about dropping me off and making it to the hospital in time...
Hooray for J's until Monday lovely!
Hope all is OK with your Dad.
Jaquaia
30-01-20, 04:20 PM
Me too. But believe it or not, his last consultant never did an endo...
Jaquaia
30-01-20, 04:26 PM
MRI and CT I think, but no endo. I would have thought an endo would be logical. So hopefully the emergency appointment is his new consultant wanting to get him sorted after more than a year
It seems bonkers that it hasn't happened before...
Jaquaia
30-01-20, 05:19 PM
Gastritis with some erosions in the stomach. They've taken some biopsies to test for heliobacter pylori and given him something to help reduce acid.
Apparently this showed up on his MRI so they're not sure how the last consultant missed it...
That isn't good that it's been missed....
Jaquaia
30-01-20, 05:33 PM
No it isn't. No wonder he's been in so much pain. At least this consultant is doing something
Currently sat in subway stuffing my face. Starving now!
magie06
30-01-20, 06:23 PM
Did you drive this morning as well as doing all the other stuff?
Jaquaia
30-01-20, 06:55 PM
I did. I have no idea how my mum can sit with the clutch down for any length of time with her legs the way they are as my ankle was throbbing! I had to put it in neutral and use the handbrake.
magie06
30-01-20, 07:09 PM
I would find it difficult to drive any other car than my own.
I love my car as it's automatic - I had to give in and change from a manual. Best thing I did. Marc's even now got an auto so I can jump in and drive it too!
Jaquaia
30-01-20, 08:05 PM
J wants my driving licence so I can go on his insurance. 2 litre MG ZT... could be interesting..m
magie06
30-01-20, 08:13 PM
My sister got the offer of a car from my brother but it's 15 years old and no one would insure her on it. Not even the company she's insured with in her other car.
I got an automatic even before my fall as my hyper mobility meant twisting my knee wasn’t a good idea. My licence is now auto too. Si’s just had to get over his ego and drive an auto lol
Jaquaia
31-01-20, 02:17 PM
Just want to say that my tutor for my main psychology module is absolutely amazing!!! She's just emailed me to see how I'm getting on :)
magie06
31-01-20, 02:51 PM
That's brilliant. They all want you to do well.
You’re pretty amazing too!
Jaquaia
31-01-20, 05:59 PM
I don't see it but I'll accept you think that
Jaquaia
31-01-20, 07:35 PM
My next essay is comparing mindfulness and existential counselling... I hate it. Help!
Erm...... but I know you’ve got this!
Jaquaia
31-01-20, 08:50 PM
Do you think "I'm more drawn towards existential therapy as the audio made mindfulness sound incredibly dull and like a huge load of (swear)(swear)(swear)(swear)(swear)(swear)(swear)( swear)" would be an acceptable answer? (think)
I'd offer to help you, but I think you should work it out on your own....... (think) (think)
Jaquaia
31-01-20, 08:59 PM
The book chapter is ok so I'll be able to summarise ok, it's just the two people the chapter author interviewed for the audio. One sounded like she was nodding off and they botth waffled more than me trying to hit my word limit!
Mindfulness is the secret to my success re my pain. Does that help?? (giggle)
Jaquaia
01-02-20, 10:24 AM
Funnily enough, mindfulness first came about as a way of dealing with lower back pain!
Just sitting down to start my essay. So far this morning I've showered, fed the cat and myself, cat bolted his food and threw it back up so cleaned that up, banged my head as the playhouse door had come open so went to shut it, or try to anyway...
Essay writing now. And a big bag of fizzy cola bottles!
Oh no! Yuk, cat sick.... How did you bang your head on the playhouse?
Good plan with the cola bottles!
Jaquaia
01-02-20, 11:04 AM
Because I didn't duck low enough!
Jaquaia
01-02-20, 03:48 PM
I've written my self-reflection and am nearly 700 words into my essay. Laptop is nearly dead so I'm going to stick it on charge in the kitchen, settle on the sofa with my notepad and textbook and write the next section by hand. The children are being dropped off around 6 and I will look at typing it up once the children are in bed!
I need the break as I kept putting the wrong author in my references!!!
Hope you're having a great time with the children!
Jaquaia
01-02-20, 07:25 PM
They've been fed as they've only had chips as they didn't like what Cruella and the social worker did for tea, and they're in their pjs. I'm in sole charge until J gets home!
What did they create for the children to eat?
Jaquaia
01-02-20, 08:00 PM
Steak and gravy pie with chips. Yet neither of them like gravy
Oh........ :( Sounds like extra stories and cuddles are needed to be given out.... Cheese on toast and hot chocolate too!
Jaquaia
01-02-20, 10:01 PM
They had a lunchable, a bag of crisps and some chocolate fingers. Abbie has had 4 stories, but is in bed which is good as J isn't very well
Oh no, what's up with J?
Hope you all had a lovely evening...
Jaquaia
02-02-20, 10:13 AM
We think he's picked up a bug so he's under strict orders to rest. So the plan is playmobil with the children and a quick trip into Beverley for a bit of shopping we need.
It made me sad when he said he's not used to being looked after when he's poorly
That is sad, but he has that now and that’s what matters
Jaquaia
03-02-20, 03:44 PM
Essay number 2 submitted! 200 words under the word limit but it's submitted and that's the main thing. It was starting to annoy me! I can focus on trying to keep up with the modules I'm up to date with and try and catch up and write my research report!
magie06
03-02-20, 04:02 PM
Well done. You are amazing.
Jaquaia
03-02-20, 05:39 PM
I can't wait to move. I always feel sad when I come home. A wasn't happy when I told her I was going home today, and the first thing they did when J picked them up was asked when I was there next. A has asked me to go to her birthday party, which is not going to go down well at all...
Awwww I'm so glad that they've taken to you so fast! I'm sorry you have to go back to your parents...
Not long now, hunni. Are you going to the party?
Jaquaia
03-02-20, 08:28 PM
I've told J that he needs to bring it up with Cruella. J's dad was right in what he said that other day, they both need to grow up and realise me and her bf are around. I do understand J being angry with him, as how he behaved on Christmas Eve, especially as the children heard, was appalling, but holding a grudge doesn't help anything. She needs to put her children first for a change and realise that Abbie wants me there. But if she insists that I don't go, then her bf should have to stay away too.
I don't feel comfortable just showing up as I don't trust her not to ruin it for A, and she's threatened me a few times too, so I'm wary.
I hope you're keeping note re her threatening you....
Jaquaia
03-02-20, 09:18 PM
It's been noted. It's more general "I won't be held responsible for my actions if I'm ever in the same room as her" and it's not as if she can do anything with a broken foot but that's not really the point is it!
Broken foot?
How are you today? What's on today's agenda?
Jaquaia
04-02-20, 08:39 AM
Oh! Have I not said? She fell down the stairs the weekend she moved and broke her foot (giggle) karma does bite sometimes!
I'm a little stiff but that will go when I get up. And Talia is going with Sarah on Monday, so feeling bad that she's going on my mums birthday. But my mums insisting she can't keep her as she gets under her feet.
Today will be studying. Got 2 audios to listen to, a chapter on addiction to finish and an online activity to do to be completely up to date with 2 modules, then it's just knuckling down to my big module
How are you feeling about Talia?
Jaquaia
04-02-20, 10:03 AM
A little sad but I've never really been a dog person so I don't actually know until she goes. Guilty mainly, because I know my mum is upset about it. J is feeling guilty too
Sorry about Talia. These things are always so hard.
How's the studying going?
Jaquaia
04-02-20, 01:34 PM
Took a break but plodding along. I work a lot better at J's
Jaquaia
04-02-20, 03:03 PM
A week on Thursday. I said I'd be home this weekend with it being my mums birthday
When's A's birthday party?
Jaquaia
04-02-20, 03:21 PM
A week on Thursday. It's my mums 60th on Monday so we're going out for a family meal on Sunday, and a meal with Sarah on Monday, then it's Abbie's birthday on Tuesday but J is working so won't see her, then her party Thursday after school
Jaquaia
04-02-20, 05:09 PM
In around 8 weeks!!!! (party)
OO can you bring it forward at all?
Jaquaia
04-02-20, 07:08 PM
I'm spending more and more time there so being at my parents some of the time allows me to sort my stuff out as well as do uni work
OOO I'm surprised you're not filling up bags and taking them over each time you go ;) I'm so happy for you.
Jaquaia
04-02-20, 09:09 PM
I've taken over a stack of books!!! And I've had basic toiletries and a dressing gown there for a while now. Next week is more books and dvds, maybe CDs too! He's even paying for my hair cutting! I asked him to find out how much it would be so I could draw the money out and his response was to roll his eyes and smack me across the back of the head a la Gibbs from NCIS!!!
Oh and have I said Cruella knows I'm moving in???
Good, that hurdle’s dealt with
Jaquaia
04-02-20, 09:55 PM
It hasn't gone down well. A told her I was moving in next week (giggle) She questioned T who told her it was likely to be April/May time, and then had a go at J for not having the decency to tell her. He pointed out that we hadn't decided on a date yet but had talked to the children about it as we wanted to make sure they were ok with it.
She didn’t tell J her bf was moving in, if I recall correctly .......
Exactly, what's good the goose and all that....
Jaquaia
05-02-20, 08:26 AM
That was exactly what I said!!! She's said again that if it wasn't for me they could have worked through things. J told her no and that she'd been looking for an excuse to get out for years. God knows how her bf would feel if he heard she was still saying these things, though he's not the brightest. J's parents were waiting for the kids to be dropped off for school yesterday and at quarter to 9 they still hadn't shown up and they were worried. She never answered her phone when they rang so J's dad went across to the school to find out what was going on. Her bf had got lost so took them straight to school instead. And the reason he got lost was because he got directions from the 4 year old...
At least he took them to school, but why didn't he call?
Jaquaia
05-02-20, 01:58 PM
No idea!!!
Stressed now! Hermes have apparently delivered my parcel but the picture in the safe space isn't my house!
Oh no!!! Can you contact them and ask for more specifics?
Jaquaia
05-02-20, 06:19 PM
Can't get in touch with Hermes, they say you need to speak to the company you ordered from so emailed customer services as it will be easier to send evidence that way if it's needed.
J has let slip that A doesn't want to tell Cruella that she's asked me to her birthday party so it sounds like I'm being slagged off in front of the children. He's going to speak to T tomorrow
Jaquaia
05-02-20, 08:26 PM
I don't see what I can do? It's either go and risk her party being ruined because I'm there, or not go and upset A...
Or say that you can't go - that way you don't make Cruella the demon and aren't bad mouthing her etc and then throw a huge almighty party with glitter, unicorns, balloons and all those amazing things when you have her?
Jaquaia
05-02-20, 08:39 PM
That's the issue. I'm at J's from the same day, so they'll be leaving me at home...
Ahh.... Then it's one for J to deal with I'm afraid....
Jaquaia
05-02-20, 09:17 PM
I'm just worried that no matter the decision, Abbie will end up upset
I know, but you can only do what you can do love....
Jaquaia
05-02-20, 09:30 PM
I know. I just hate that it's the children that suffer because she puts her ego first
That is something thats not going to change I fear. Her ego seems to be so important to her.
We can not change behavior like that u less she also sees it and wants to change.
One thing that can be done is something you and J are doing wonderful already. And thats is showing the kids another example.
I know my stepdad was a bad person. But my mum made everything easier by being a inspiration and guide.
I think you have that too. Its within you naturely.
I couldn’t agree with Mira more
I agree! Mira has put it perfectly...
How are you today?
Jaquaia
06-02-20, 11:10 AM
Thank you Mira!
I'm ok, well... ish! I didn't drive home as I have a headache and sinus pain. A has given me her cold, she was a snotty little madam over the weekend, and I mean that in the literal sense!
magie06
06-02-20, 12:02 PM
I wouldn't mind a little snot between friends!
How was your lesson?
Jaquaia
06-02-20, 12:08 PM
It was good! We were working a lot on reversing today
magie06
06-02-20, 12:42 PM
I'm almost 18 years driving and I'm still crap at reversing.
Jaquaia
06-02-20, 12:49 PM
I should be able to get some extra driving in soon. J is getting me added to his insurance
magie06
06-02-20, 01:18 PM
You will see a big difference when you get into the car on a daily basis.
It’ll definitely up your confidence
Jaquaia
06-02-20, 01:35 PM
He's having to change insurers as his current ones won't insure me on his car until I've had my full licence for 2 years!
Jaquaia
06-02-20, 02:07 PM
Yet Admiral will insure him, his 75 year old dad and me for £360. Oh and he can get me insured on a big-engined Audi for £700! (rofl)
(rofl) Glad it's being sorted!
Jaquaia
06-02-20, 09:18 PM
Today I have learnt how to run independent and repeated-measures t-tests in SPSS and I've used almost a full roll of loo roll on my nose! Currently giving Rudolph a run for his money in the red-nose stakes...
Resting now though
Glad you're resting love.
Jaquaia
06-02-20, 09:47 PM
I have to try and be sensible. I need to catch up with uni work and give myself time to just rest or this bug is going to hit me hard. In hindsight, I probably should have skipped my methotrexate
Hindsight’s always perfect. What are your plans for tomorrow? Rest? Lots of fluid? Day Nurse??
Jaquaia
06-02-20, 11:35 PM
Doing the washing (fairly easy as there isn't a lot), plodding through yet MORE statistics (ANOVA tomorrow... something to do with variance), drinking lots, paracetamol, menthol sweets, reading and resting!!!
A and T have been complaining about me not being there :)
It must be truly lovely to know that they want you around too...
How are you feeling today? Still snotty?
Jaquaia
07-02-20, 08:35 AM
Very snotty!!!
It really is! T was sat trying to figure out how J could come and get me yesterday! I just asked J to tell him that I missed them but I needed time to do uni work and sort my stuff out and the sooner I can do that the sooner I can be there all the time.
Awwwwwww!!! *passes tissues*
*accepts tissues and blows nose loudly*
Jaquaia
07-02-20, 10:30 AM
I need a lot of tissues!!! J has mentioned getting me some cotton handkerchiefs
magie06
07-02-20, 01:45 PM
I have to agree with J. Much better for the environment.
OldMike
07-02-20, 06:11 PM
You're lucky you can manage to study while you're all snotty, I wouldn't be able to but then I'm a man and us guys are rather delicate things (giggle)
Jaquaia
07-02-20, 08:25 PM
(giggle)
Two more weeks worth of statistics tutorials done and 2 full weeks ticked off my catch up list!
Jaquaia
07-02-20, 09:18 PM
And have 3 bags packed to take to J's next week too!!!
That's fab! How are you feeling today?
Jaquaia
08-02-20, 11:24 AM
Still very snotty! Have taken paracetamol as I have a headache from blowing my nose. Annoyed too. It's A's birthday on Tuesday and J has a lieu day so asked if he could pick her up from school so he can give her her birthday presents. All he's got from Cruella is it's her day and he shouldn't just assume and then she's kicked off about knowing nothing about her birthday party, despite J's dad giving her details over a week ago as soon as it was booked.
The drama continues with her :(
Hope the paracetamol works and you feel better soon.
Jaquaia
08-02-20, 12:30 PM
It's constant drama with her. It's all about her ego and control, the children are just a way of trying to maintain that control.
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