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Tia
28-09-19, 10:37 PM
Loneliness really is a killer. It doesn't matter what age you are. My kids have lives of their own, one is at University , the other is always out. when I close my door at night I am left with a total feeling of despair, loneliness and hopelessness. It is so sad to think my house was once filled with childrens laughter. It took me years to get out of an abusive marriage and thankfully my kids are well balanced young men( always kids to me )But here I am just at rock bottom with tears streaming down my face. It all gets so over whelming. I can hardly breath from the hurt of emotional pain .

People say I need to get out more ,I have tried but I am only really papering over the cracks . I am so empty. I just needed to write this as I have no one to say it to and no one to listen.

Strugglingmum
29-09-19, 08:15 AM
I'm sorry youvare feeling like that. Have you spoken to your Dr about it?

Suzi
29-09-19, 09:45 AM
Hi lovely. Do you have any friends around you? What about hobbies that you can use to get you out and about?

Paula
29-09-19, 10:18 AM
Hi Hunni, did you used to have any hobbies that you could consider doing again?

Tia
29-09-19, 06:00 PM
I have gone to bed the dreaded lergy has got me on top of everything else. I don't know what it is but I thought I was doing ok and from out the blue the depression strikes. I am sick of it robbing my life. Perhaps I will feel better in a few days . ��

Paula
29-09-19, 06:06 PM
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Angie
29-09-19, 06:39 PM
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Suzi
29-09-19, 09:14 PM
Is it the cough/cold type bug?
Are you still eating and drinking properly?

Tia
03-10-19, 10:13 PM
Thank you for your kind words. I am Still slightly ill but getting there. It's been a god awful week. I am struggling and the letter that came in the post today has knocked me for six. Life is so unfair.��

Suzi
04-10-19, 08:22 AM
Do you want to talk about the letter?
Glad you're feeling a little better x

Paula
04-10-19, 12:20 PM
How are you today, lovely?

Tia
04-10-19, 05:17 PM
It's awful my ex husband managed to secure debt on the house before we got divorced. The solicitors who the debt has been passed to are taking me to court to force sale of my home . I have spent the morning on the phone to solicitors who don't want to support me and last resort I rang the debt solicitor. So I am going to be left to pay yet another of his debts or loose my home. I was awarded the house but can't get the deeds in my name until this debt is cleared. I have spent the last ten years being chased by creditors for debt. He left me with thousands of pounds to pay back and I was very nearly there.....just a couple of hundred and now this. It was all part of his financial abuse. I wouldn't mind at one point I was so low I considered some really dark options . I am not sure if counselling helped or not at that time. It's another crushing blow dealt by the ex husband.

Paula
04-10-19, 05:23 PM
Oh hunni, I’m so sorry. Have you contacted Citizens Advice or Shelter who have lots of advice and helplines to avoid repossession https://england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/repossession/how_to_argue_against_repossession?

Tia
04-10-19, 05:24 PM
I just feel really really sad and defeated. My heads a mess .

The only way is to pay . I know that's what cab will say otherwise the courts are legally allowed to sell the property. It hurts like hell as this was my parents home , my childhood and present home and the home for my two boys when I am no longer here.

Angie
04-10-19, 05:40 PM
Oh sweetheart, it is still worth contacting shelter they specialise in housing so may have some advise for you xx

Suzi
04-10-19, 06:52 PM
Definitely get some more advice.