Diary of a book addict

[Suzi]

Well done on your lesson! Hope the rest of the day went well lovely x

[Jaquaia]

I've studied. I've finished week 1 for 2 of my modules and started writing up my notes for last weeks counselling class. I'm irritable though. Not doing well with people talking to me.

[Angie]

(bear)

[Suzi]

Hormonal? Well done for getting so much done. Can you do something nice for you?

[Jaquaia]

Possibly. If everything behaves I'm due either next week or the week after as going 4-5 weeks.

Tonight is going to be Ashes to Ashes I think!

[Suzi]

Hope you've had a really restful evening...

[Jaquaia]

I've actually spent half an hour on the phone with my future m-i-l!!! It was quite nice chatting to her. Other then that, just watched a couple of episodes of Ashes to Ashes

[Suzi]

Nice! It's good you get along well with her!

[Jaquaia]

I think they're both lovely.

[Suzi]

That's brilliant!

[Angie]

Morning sweetie how you doing ? x

[Paula]

You’re quiet lovely?

[Jaquaia]

I'm tired. I think I'm in a mini-flare, my wrists and hands are still achey but it's fatigue that is getting me, my body feels like a lead weight.

[Angie]

(bear)

[Suzi]

Can you rest at all?

[Jaquaia]

I ended up cooking tea. Chicken casserole. It was a cheat one as it was all frozen veg so it saved my wrists, but I made the dumplings and then had a couple of hours with J and came back down to see that no one had actually bothered putting them in the casserole to cook. So it all got left to me though I got my dad to do the mash. He didn't look impressed but tough

[Suzi]

I'm glad you used the frozen veg love. I'm also really glad you didn't do the mash!

[Jaquaia]

I ended up doing my mums meds too. I just feel like I'm wading through treacle today. Watched last weeks Model Railway Challenge when my brother left and going to go settle in bed with a book for a bit I think

[Angie]

Sounds like a good idea hunni getting some rest and chilling xx

[Suzi]

Why doesn't she get the pharmacy to do it in blister packs?

[Angie]

We call them nomads at work, they have morning lunch tea and bed for each day over 7 days and all the meds are then put into them, it would make things so much easier for you and your mum as then she would get all her meds

[Jaquaia]

She hasn't asked about it. The bowel and bladder nurse suggested she did but all she says is I forgot. As it is, I've just got into bed and my body feels like a lead weight, not to mention my hands are stiff so compression gloves tonight

[Angie]

(panda)

[Suzi]

(panda) How are you today?

[Paula]

How are you feeling?

[Jaquaia]

Tired mainly. Everything is a huge effort, so going to camp in my room doing uni work. I don't have to move very much then

[Suzi]

(bear) Sorry you're not feeling brighter lovely. Hope the camping out works, just make sure you drink ;)

[Jaquaia]

I'm never going to get away with that again am I?

[Paula]

Awww, on my screen the winky emoji and the bear are so close together it looks like winky has a bear hat (giggle)

[Angie]

(giggle)

[Jaquaia]

(giggle)

[Suzi]

Lol! (bear) ;) (rofl)

[Jaquaia]

I've written up my notes from Monday night, printed out some of my assignment stuff and was going to write out when my tutorials are but decided I can do that tomorrow and decided to rest!

Progress!!!

[Angie]

Sounds like lots of progress xx

[OldMike]

Lol! (bear) ;) (rofl)

Not on my screen they don't, a bear with a winking hat Paula sure has a vivid imagination (bear) ;)

Go you Jaq you've sure got this uni studying down to a tee (bear) ;)

Wow that's a lot of winkin' bear emojis I've posted (bear) ;)

[Suzi]

Pacing? Wow! Go you!!
How are you today?

[Jaquaia]

Tired and headachey. Going to finish printing out the stuff I'll need and start reading the chapter I need this week and that's it

[Suzi]

Good. I'm glad you're listening to your body.

[Angie]

^WSS^

[Jaquaia]

If I do them all, I will have 34 online tutorials and only 4 clash...

Just gone through and written them all in my diary with my assignment deadlines.

[Suzi]

So it's workable?

[Jaquaia]

I don't know. They're not evenly spread. Some weeks I have 3 or 4, some weeks I have 2 assignments due within days of each other. I need to be on top of things or I'm going to need to defer.

[Suzi]

You can do this. We're with you to help you to stay calm...

[Jaquaia]

I'm going to try my hardest, that's all I can do. I've made my tutor for my big module aware that I may have issues and need support due to my MH and RA

[Suzi]

That's brilliant. It's really good that you have said so now and so they are prepared just in case..

[Paula]

I’m so proud of you for that :)

[Jaquaia]

It's something I needed to do to get the most out of my course. At some point over the next few weeks I'll look at letting my other tutors know, though those modules look more straightforward. I'm pleased I filled out my disability profile too as there is no way I will manage writing for 3 hours solid in my exam, not with how my hands are at the moment.

[Angie]

Sounds like a good idea hunni xx

[Suzi]

I'm so proud of you for putting your needs first lovely.

[Jaquaia]

Only 2 weeks left and my assignment to do and my level 1 is complete! I need to learn how to take feedback! I had some excellent feedback tonight, including from the tutor, and I just turn it into a joke or feel really awkward!

[Paula]

(party)

[Suzi]

Well done lovely!

[Jaquaia]

My tutor said I was excellent and did really well, as did my group. My tutor asked how it felt. I initially feel really awkward with people watching me but it actually feels really natural, I seem to have a knack for getting people to think about things differently or getting them to realise something they hadn't already. J thinks counselling is what I'm meant to do and I think I agree with him. This is the first time ever that I've actually believed I can do something

[Suzi]

So pleased for you - although I'm not surprised you are a natural!

[Jaquaia]

I just had a conversation with a stranger in the station!!!!

[Paula]

OMG I think you’re actually starting to believe in yourself! I am soooo chuffed :)

[Angie]

Yay that is all brilliant x

[Suzi]

I just had a conversation with a stranger in the station!!!!
OMG that's amazing! Well done! :)

[Jaquaia]

Had a lovely day out today. We took the North York Moors Railway up to Grosmont, had lunch, had a walk around the railway sheds, and hit the bookshop. We got the train back (it was steam!!!) and went to that bookshop too! I'm skint now but I was determined that he was going to have a good birthday day out doing something he wanted to do.

I am suffering a bit, but it was worth it to see him have a good day :)

[Angie]

Glad that you had a good day sweetie xx

[Suzi]

So glad you had a wonderful day!

[Paula]

So chuffed you had fun :)

[Jaquaia]

I'm suffering a little tonight but I'm resting. It's worth it if he had a good day though. It isn't helping that I forgot my medication this morning. I left before 8 so my reminder hadn't gone off

[Paula]

Ah... rest tomorrow?

[Jaquaia]

I'm just going to plod through my uni work, I don't have to move far then. And J is staying over tomorrow night, so lots of rest

[Suzi]

How are you feeling this morning?

[Jaquaia]

I've only been awake about 5 minutes so I obviously needed the sleep. I'm stiff at the moment, hopefully that will wear off, hopefully a shower will help.

[Suzi]

Has it helped? Taken your meds? Drink? Plan for the day?

[Jaquaia]

It's helped a little, my wrists are still stiff but I have splints if they get too bad. Only just had breakfast so only just taken my meds. Just going to plod through my uni work and take lots of breaks today.

[Angie]

Sounds like a plan hunni x

[Paula]

Do you need reminding to have breaks?

[Jaquaia]

I should be ok, my wrist starts aching after a while and it's hard to ignore that

[Suzi]

How're your breaks taking?

[Jaquaia]

Not too bad. I've written up all my notes from Monday and done about 4 pages of notes. Stopping now, my wrists are achey so need to rest them.

[Suzi]

Well done for listening to your body and resting..

[Jaquaia]

Had to happen occasionally!

[Paula]

I’m impressed :) there seems to a bit of that listening to your body happening across he forum ;)

[Jaquaia]

Well when you're nagged enough... (giggle)

[Suzi]

How many times do I have to tell you - It's not "nagging" it's "repeated and consistent reminders"....

[Paula]

(rofl)

[Angie]

(rofl)

[Jaquaia]

My driving lesson was AWESOME!!! I extended my route again! Bob suggested it and rather than listen to my anxiety and say no, I agreed and coped fine, just more cautious as I didn't know the area, spent hardly any time in my comfort zone today! My aim is to be driving home by Christmas and I've even suggested driving part of the way home next week!

[Angie]

Way to go sweetie you are doing so well and I hope you are starting to realise just how well you are doing and how strong you are and can start to see what we see xx

[Jaquaia]

I can see huge improvements from when I started.

[Angie]

Good, but please and you know I get it start to see how awsome you are and how strong and caring and giving and wonderful x

[Paula]

Have you looked back on your post here from your first lesson to see how far you’ve come?

[Suzi]

I am SOOOOOOOOO proud of you!

[Jaquaia]

Have you looked back on your post here from your first lesson to see how far you’ve come?

I was only talking about that with Bob this morning!

[Suzi]

You should do it!

[Jaquaia]

Went to an appointment with my mum this morning and ended up having a massive go at her. She rang my sister back on handsfree but as she turned the engine on the call cut out. She then only tried reversing as she was calling her back with her phone wedged between her ear and her shoulder. I went ballistic at her except all she gave was excuses. I wasn't listening to any of them and told her that she doesn't move the car unless her call is on handsfree and the excuses she was coming out with would make the police be even harder on her.

[Suzi]

Oh that's awful! I hate people using mobiles when they are driving. It might be because I can't text and walk, let alone do it whilst I'm driving..
I'm glad you stood up to her though.

[Angie]

Agree with Suzi hunni x

[Jaquaia]

Erm... stood up to her? I told her she wasn't an idiot and not to act like one! (giggle)

[Angie]

Good for you hunni x

[OldMike]

Was the call really that urgent that she needed to make it while driving the car. I'm not surprised you gave your mum an earful.

[Suzi]

Erm... stood up to her? I told her she wasn't an idiot and not to act like one! (giggle)
Awesome! :) Hopefully she'll have listened....

[Jaquaia]

Studying today. I'm very conscious of just how much I have to do yet I'm struggling to stay focused, my hands are stiff and it looks like my middle finger on my left hand is starting to deform too. I am taking lots of little breaks though.

[Suzi]

Sorry about your finger lovely... Break it up into small chunks lovely. Try not to look at the whole thing, just one step by one step

[Jaquaia]

I'm focusing on one module today, just reading and writing notes. Tomorrow I will probably finish off any notes, do the 2 online tasks and start the next module. I can do this is if I'm sensible and pace.

[Suzi]

Exactly. Pace, pace and pace...

[Jaquaia]

I just need to get into good habits I think.

[Paula]

Could some hand massage help, if you teach some to J maybe? It can be very gentle and may help slow down the deforming ....

[Angie]

You will sweetie, sounds like you already have a good plan in place x

[Jaquaia]

Could some hand massage help, if you teach some to J maybe? It can be very gentle and may help slow down the deforming ....

I'm not sure. It's something I can look into.

Edit:
Just googled "hand massage for rheumatoid arthritis"

The first result wasn't anything like it!!!! :o

It came up with yoni massage which is *ahem* very intimate!

[Angie]

Sorry but that made me (giggle)

[Paula]

(rofl)

[Suzi]

(rofl) Always be careful when you google anything massage based! (rofl)

[Jaquaia]

I've learnt that lesson the hard way!!!

[Suzi]

OOO er missus!

[Jaquaia]

Not really helping myself here am I?

[Angie]

Erm! lol

[Suzi]

(rofl)(rofl)(rofl)(rofl)

[Jaquaia]

Going to my sisters to see Scarlett to ensure I take a break. My hands were aching yesterday so it won't hurt to have a few hours off. I can do something when I get home.

[Angie]

Go and enjoy sweetie and get some time out aswell xx

[Suzi]

You can't work all the time! Go, have fun with Scarlett!

[Jaquaia]

My wrist is achey so taking today off. Scarlett was all for me today, I read Little Red Riding Hood so many times!

[Paula]

Without wishing to sound patronising lol, well done :)

[Jaquaia]

Well I can't have you lot putting me to shame can I? ;)

[Angie]

Glad that your giving your wrist a rest sweetie xx

[Suzi]

Woohoo! :)

[Jaquaia]

Probably a good thing as I keep getting stabbing pains down my middle finger. Oh well! Just means settling down with Jane Austen!

[Suzi]

Hardship! Sit back and enjoy!

[Angie]

Sounds like an even better idea sweetie xx

[Paula]

Ouch for the finger but yah! For Jane Austen :)

[Jaquaia]

Went to bed with a headache and my eyes hurting, woke up with the headache still there! I'm tense and it's taking conscious effort to unclench my jaw. Using white tiger balm as that sometimes helps and oh my god it burns!!! Well, not really but I am very conscious of where it is

[Angie]

Hugs sweetie, please rest today or at least pace and rest xx

[Suzi]

Rest love.. Go take some time off and do something gentle on yourself.

[Paula]

Stupid question, but are you up to date with sight tests?

[Jaquaia]

Yes, I have them every year because of my meds so my last one was in March. Have to start seeing an opthamologist too. I'm assuming my rheumatologist will sort that out when I'm next in clinic. It doesn't help that my eyes are dry, actually using my eye drops.

[Suzi]

Are you drinking enough?

[Jaquaia]

Probably not. Will make a point of going to the shops for a drink before my course tonight

[Suzi]

Hope you got that drink and had a brilliant time at your course.

[Jaquaia]

I absolutely love it!!! I emailed admin to put my name down for level 2 :) I had some excellent feedback again from both my group and the tutor! There was also comments about how clever I am and how they were in awe of me. I'm not used to me being intelligent being seen as a good thing. It's usually mocked or used as a stick I have to measure myself against

[Suzi]

I have such a massive respect for you!

[Jaquaia]

I don't see that I'm anyone to be in awe of...

Ooh. Guess what?!?

We're talking about going for a drink next week!!!

[Angie]

Go you sweetie xx

[Paula]

Wow, how is you being intelligent something to be knocked?. It should be celebrated and something to be proud of!

[Jaquaia]

It's what I've always had. I've always felt like it was something I've had to hide.

[Angie]

You should be shouting it from the tree tops sweetie xx

[Jaquaia]

It always felt like bragging.

[Angie]

No not at all x

[Paula]

Telling the truth is never bragging

[Suzi]

I agree, I feel I might have to give you my well rehearsed speech that I have to give Hazel.... You are intelligent, you are lovely, you are kind, you are amazing, you should NEVER have to hide who you are...

[Jaquaia]

They told me I was lovely today too and J constantly tells me I'm amazing and awesome. I don't see it but I know that is the result of a lifetime of bullying...

[Suzi]

And the more you surround yourself with people who are positive for you, the more that will be chipped away at...

[Jaquaia]

Hopefully

[Suzi]

Have faith....

[Jaquaia]

Funnily enough, 2 people told me yesterday that I should have more faith in myself...

[OldMike]

Have faith....

I'll second that.

[Suzi]

Funnily enough, 2 people told me yesterday that I should have more faith in myself...
We can't all be wrong love....

[Jaquaia]

Stop using logic!!!

[Jaquaia]

I've just had a book delivered from amazon. Seems J decided to surprise me! I know it was him as he's the only one who addresses it "People's Republic of Yorkshire" (giggle)

Feeling very loved at the moment (inlove)

[Angie]

Awww thats lovely of him, spill the beans what book is it?

[Jaquaia]

Once Upon a River: The Sunday Times bestseller https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1784163635/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_NgCPDbTZDBR5W

It's one I saw recommended a lot on a book group I'm in on fb. I need to stop buying books though. My to read pile.... (giggle)
https://www.dropbox.com/s/ggkk6vasqyaxhqd/20191015_135612.jpg?raw=1

Ignore the mess!

[Paula]

(rofl)

[Angie]

(rofl) I'm the same sweetie to many books to have homes for at the moment

[Jaquaia]

That's only the ones I haven't read! I only have around 200 on my bookcase and that's only a quarter of what I have (giggle)

[Angie]

Lol hey you can never be bored if you have something to read x

[Suzi]

Erm.... What mess?

My to read pile is getting longer, but they're mostly on my kindle...

[Jaquaia]

Oh I have a few hundred on my kindle too...

[Jarre]

noooooo my ocd..... books upsidedown lol (rofl)

[Jaquaia]

Been to the doctors with my mum. She saw the nurse practitioner for an arthritis review and when she said about just shooting her (standard line for my mum at the doctors) was told that there are a lot of people who are worse off than her...

I had no words!!!

[Suzi]

Oh! What did she say?

[Jaquaia]

I don't think my mum knew what to say!

Todays plan is helping my dad sort his tank out then studying with lots of breaks as my wrists and hands are stiff. Need to dig out my eye drops as my eyes are bothering me today too

[Angie]

What on earth was the doctor thinking!

Please be careful sorting the tank sweetie specially if changing water it is so heavy x

[Suzi]

(panda) I sympathise. I'm putting it down to the weather...

Hope you do stick to loads of breaks and doing things really gently.... and not to push yourself too much.
Oh and do you think you might need a drink?

[Jaquaia]

Going to finish this one and take a fresh one up with me. I'm going to try and keep on top of my drinking today.

[Angie]

Good sweetie xx

[Paula]

Just checking, most eye drops need to be thrown away after being opened for a certain amount of time. Are yours?

[Suzi]

How's it going Jaq?

[Jaquaia]

6 months for the ones I have. I've opened a new bottle to be sure though. My gel ones are nearly expired so need to order more. I need to mention it to my rheumatologist when I see her next. My optician has mentioned that my eyes are still dry despite a punctul occlusion, my dentist has mentioned that my mouth is dry, my nose is dry and I have problems with my sinuses and I've had a dry cough for ages. It could be related to the RA or it could be indicative of another autoimmune disorder so I think it's best to discuss it with her and get her advice.


How's it going Jaq?

Slowly plodding. This chapter is fascinating but a bit of brain fog...

[Suzi]

Absolutely mention it...

What's the chapter on?

[Paula]

Or, it could be that you’re dehydrated.....

[Jaquaia]

Absolutely mention it...

What's the chapter on?

The brain and its role in behaviour and on the mind. For example, PET scans show there is a significant difference in brain activity in the prefrontal cortex between people with OCD and those without!


Or, it could be that you’re dehydrated.....

My eyes have been an issue for around 10 years now. I drank a fair bit then as my supervisor at work was a bit of a Suzi ;)

[Angie]

(bear)

[Paula]

Yes, but there’s an awful lot more of your body that’s dry now ..... Jaq, please consider it, esp as we know you don’t drink enough

[Jaquaia]

I am. My drinking is better when my mood is level, I'm probably averaging 2 litres a day. But just an example, I've just put eye drops in and my eyes feel dry again already.

[Angie]

I would definately mention it sweetie xx

[Suzi]

my supervisor at work was a bit of a Suzi ;)
I'm not sure what you mean by that one! (rofl)

In totally unrelated news.... have you had a drink recently?

[Jaquaia]

Yes. On my 4th or 5th today. Currently drinking dandelion and burdock.

Not having a great day today. My hands are stiff, my wrists are throbbing and my left elbow and shoulder are joining in today too.

[Suzi]

Well done lovely on the drinking!

I'm sorry you're having a crappy joints day. I think everyone I've spoken to who has joint issues has been in flare atm.... *sending squishy and understanding hugs*

[Jaquaia]

I've just discovered that geese really do fly in V's! Just had a huge flock fly over!

I've got a tutorial in half an hour and think I'll just read after that.

[Angie]

Sounds like a plan for the night sweetie, yup have loads of geese fly over my house and always in a V

[Jaquaia]

I've never seen them fly over before!

[Angie]

Awwww we have loads here

[Jaquaia]

I think I need to rearrange my room and buy a desk. So stiff after sitting at my laptop for so long!!!

[Suzi]

You've never seen geese flyover? Must be because you're so northern! (rofl)(rofl)

[Jaquaia]

No never!!!

[Suzi]

Oh! We often have them flying over! Swans are the same too! :)

[Allalone]

You've never seen geese flyover? Must be because you're so northern! (rofl)(rofl)

Now now Suzi it’s nothing to do with being northern, we have geese fly over all the time here in Carlisle. Sounds like they aren’t too keen on Yorkshire??(giggle)

[Jaquaia]

Maybe this lot remembered their passport!!!

[Allalone]

(giggle)(giggle)

[Suzi]

(rofl)(rofl)

How are you today lovely?

[Jaquaia]

I'm ok. Tired, irritable, stomach ache, hands and shoulder are stiff. Other then that, I had a fab driving lesson!!!

[Angie]

Glad that the lesson went well sweetie, please at least pace now x

[Suzi]

Yay for the driving!

(bear) for the pains... Any chance of you taking your own advice and resting and pacing? (rofl)

[Jaquaia]

I have a lot of work to do. I'm going to take a lot of breaks though

[Angie]

Glad you will be taking breaks sweetie,

[Paula]

Is it vital that work is done today?

[Jaquaia]

I need to do some but I can take breaks as I have free weeks in my small modules. Part of my assignment is due Tuesday though.

[Paula]

Some is better than lots when you’re sore, hunni (bear)

[Jaquaia]

I'm crying like a baby!!! I'm not a secret anymore!!!

[Suzi]

WTF? Are you out and proud?

[Angie]

^^WSS.

[Paula]

Wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Jaquaia]

Yes! He told her today! Will tell you details in my other thread. I am ridiculously happy right now!!!

[Angie]

I'm grinning ear to ear right now.

[Jaquaia]

Me too now I've stopped crying!!!

[Paula]

(party)

[Suzi]

So pleased for you! About time!

[Jaquaia]

I can't stop crying! I want to shout it from the rooftops!

Though it was funny when my neighbour congratulated us and a mutual friend asked if his wife knew! Think he felt a bit of a tit when he said she left a year ago!

[Angie]

Oppps lol

[Suzi]

So he should! It's about time he was out in the open so you two can actually be a couple who can go out together without hiding! Oh but it still stands, if he hurts you we're going to come and break his kneecaps.......and legs...... and elbows..... and arms.......

[Jaquaia]

(giggle)

[Paula]

Oh yes, Suzi and I have recently flexed our scary mama bear muscles too ;)

[Jaquaia]

(rofl)

[Suzi]

We are in tip top Mama Bear condition and actually the sound of a road trip is awesome! :)

[Jaquaia]

Well you'll have to come up eventually for the wedding! ;)

[Suzi]

Absobloodylutely! :)

[Paula]

Too bloody right!

[Jaquaia]

Poor J. I've sent him to the urgent care centre. His cat has been at the vets all day as he needed a tooth removing, she was vile yesterday and his dad has wound him up a little tonight and it's all caused his anxiety to get so out of hand that he's in a lot of pain with his chest. Nothing has really helped to calm him down and ease it so urgent care...

[Paula]

big hugs, J

[Angie]

Oh sweetie hope he is ok x

[Jaquaia]

He's just waiting to see either a GP or a nurse practitioner. I am so proud of him for dealing with it instead of ignoring it and suffering

[Angie]

Bless him sounds like a lot of stress.

[Jaquaia]

They've given him some diazepam. I thought they would. I'm going to see if he will give here a go, it might benefit him.

[Suzi]

Poor J! Glad he's got some help...

[Jaquaia]

Me too. He can't understand why I'm proud of him for going

[Paula]

Tell him it’s how he’s react if the tables were turned :)

[Angie]

Glad he is getting help x

[Jaquaia]

Tell him it’s how he’s react if the tables were turned :)

You know how subtle I am! I went with "suck it up buttercup" (giggle)

[Angie]

(rofl)

[Jaquaia]

Turns out the anxiety didn't help, but the pain in his chest is actually due to a chest infection. The diazepam helped the anxiety but the pain in his chest was so bad he couldn't sleep so he went to A&E. Bloods, an ECG and hours of waiting later and they've said he has a high temperature, a chest infection and exhaustion, given him antibiotics and told him he needs to rest.

[Angie]

Oh bless him, hope he is resting sweetie xx

[Jaquaia]

His dad took him while his mum sat with the children and left him taxi money while he went to get them sorted for school. He's gone quiet now so assuming he's got home

[Angie]

Okies hope he manages some sleep

[Suzi]

Oh no! Hope he's taking things easy and taking a couple of days off so he gives himself time to heal....

[Jaquaia]

He has actually let work know he can't come in so he must be feeling really rubbish!!!

[Suzi]

I'm glad he's taking time out, but sorry he's feeling rubbish..

[Jaquaia]

This is personal growth for him!

[Suzi]

It's fabulous!

[Angie]

That's brilliant x

[Paula]

Oh no:( hope he feels better soon. The sooner you’re living together so can properly look after each other, the better

[Jaquaia]

Oh wow!!! Just read that they tried naltrexone, an opioid antagonist, with people who self harm, and though it didn't work with some people, in others it dramtically reduced self-harming!!! I never even consider medication as a treatment for self-harm!!!


Oh no:( hope he feels better soon. The sooner you’re living together so can properly look after each other, the better

We cross posted. We're hoping we'll be living together before the end of next year!

[Angie]

Yay..

[Suzi]

I haven't heard of that medication for SH either...

Can I be rude and ask why it's not going to be until the end of next year that you are going to move in? Just now you're open and public and so happy I'm curious as to why you're waiting? You can, of course, tell me to mind my own business etc.... ;)

[Jaquaia]

We said by the end of next year as she didn't know about me. It's possible it will be sooner now we're in the open. We haven't actually discussed it yet. But I wouldn't want to move in until I have a relationship established with the children.

[Suzi]

Jaq they will love you so much and you are going to be so amazingly important in their lives. Honestly love, you're awesome, you're so kind, respectful and caring that I can't it being anything but fabulous and very, very needed in their lives..

[Jaquaia]

I hope so, but let's face it, this is me! I'm always going to worry until I've actually met them. And thank you!

[Paula]

^^^wss and, actually, she will make sure they know about you - you owe it to J to see that they see how wonderful you are