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Mum says she dealt with her grief and anger over what happened a long time ago. I don’t know if that’s entirely true. I don’t know if it’s something you could ever fully get over ....
I don't think you do either tbh....
I had a lovely afternoon with my best friend - we were in Costa for almost 4 hours. We haven’t seen each other for ages because her sisters been ill so it was a much needed catch up.
But..... I really, really hurt now, everywhere :(
Strugglingmum
24-06-19, 08:31 PM
(panda) sorry you hurt.
Sounds like a wonderful time with your friend. X
Hope you're resting lovely....
Jaquaia
24-06-19, 09:36 PM
Resting tomorrow I hope?
Yep. Wednesday night we’re going to dinner with the in laws as it’s FIL birthday so I need to rest tomorrow. There’s a whole other story there but I’m too tired to go into it tonight ....
OK..... As long as you are OK.... Rest though..
magie06
25-06-19, 07:36 AM
I hope you got some sleep and rest last night. Please rest and store up some spoons for tomorrow night.
How are you doing today gorgeous?
I’m tired and sore but I’ll live. Taking it easy today
magie06
25-06-19, 11:40 AM
More pacing? Suzi, have you been spreading some sort of pacing drugs around?
Absolutely... *passes pacing pills around *
I hope you managed to take it easy today and rested a bit (panda)
I have, thanks Mira. I’m still tired but we won’t be going down to Poole til later on tomorrow.
I’m seeing my pain consultant Monday. After the hell that was the changeover to morphine, I was feeling so much better so it felt worth it. But, since my labyrinthitis, my pain is worse. My hands been really bad and I’m avoiding going to bed because it hurts my back. I’m not going to list everything lol but I am worried about what to do next
Why didn't you say anything?
Will you write a list for them? Include EVERYTHING. Is Si going with you?
Because pain is a constant and there’s only so much I can say about it. But, yes, I will tell the doc everything. He’s awesome and so gentle. Si will be with me - I think he’s disappointed that I’m still in pain, bless him he’s still holding out for a cure
I know how that feels - Marc has often had that look and I've seen the disappointment that something hasn't worked or isn't working anymore....
Hoping for some answers for you Paula x
OldMike
27-06-19, 10:42 AM
(bear) (panda)
Strugglingmum
27-06-19, 01:26 PM
How are You today beautiful lady?
Are you resting after yesterday? (bear)
I’m tired but ok. I’ve had a pedicure and manicure today so feeling pampered ;) Si and Jess have gone to Bath today so it’s lovely and peaceful in my house
Glad you've had a peaceful day lovely. Have you been resting?
I have, but I’m definitely anxious today? No idea why ....
Maybe you are anxious because you are way to awesome?
Its never nice to be anxious though and even worse if you dont know why (panda)
Strugglingmum
27-06-19, 07:34 PM
Sometimes the aftermath of being tense or in an unsure situation can leave me a bit anxious even when it has passed off with none of the awfulness I was dreading/anticipating. maybe a result of your travels yesterday. (bear)
I was going to suggest anxiety as an anxiety hangover.... Tomorrow I hope you are resting....
I will be. Si asked if I wanted to go out, but I said no
Hang on - that's either you actually pacing or it's you admitting quite how bad you really are feeling.....
Jaquaia
27-06-19, 10:57 PM
She has been improving with the pacing...
I think it’s me accepting that my body has been through quite enough recently and I need to cherish it a bit more. I got a bit of a shock at dinner last night. MIL was grilling me on what I’ve been doing with my time lately and Jess, who, bless her, isn’t the most empathetic person in the world, defended me and told grandma that ‘mum’s issues with her meds have taken a lot out of her’. If I’m going to do this residential programme for pain management, I need to be at the best I can be
Strugglingmum
27-06-19, 11:03 PM
I'm so proud of Jess. (bear)
Residential? Sounds intense but really proud of you too for taking control
2 weeks residential with hours of therapy/treatment every day. I’ve got the assessment to see if I’m suitable on 12 July
Go Jess! It's awesome when they stick up for you!
You do know how proud of you I am don't you? For being determined to give this a really good shot... You are so strong - one of the strongest I've ever had the privilege to call a friend.
So.. How are you doing? Really.....
magie06
28-06-19, 12:19 PM
I was about to ask the same thing.
Anxious and I don’t know why
Jaquaia
28-06-19, 12:48 PM
Could it be a combination of being in more pain since you were ill and knowing you've got the residential coming up?
Jaquaia
28-06-19, 12:49 PM
Plenty of rest and being kind to you?
magie06
28-06-19, 01:01 PM
Please be kind to you.
You've got that appointment on Monday, you've had the issues with your FIL, you have SO much going on. Give yourself a break! I'm not surprised you're feeling anxious..
I yelled at Si earlier, he was only trying to help out by distracting Polo but he was moving around the room and it was doing my head in. I did apologise but I shouldn’t have done it. I went to bed and slept all afternoon
You obviously needed the sleep. Si won't hold it against you. I assume you've talked to him and told him what's going on in your head?
Strugglingmum
28-06-19, 06:21 PM
Hope the sleep helped and if nothing else it was a distraction. Xx
Jaquaia
28-06-19, 06:37 PM
You're not alone lovely. My brother is down, I've already got snappy with him and I'm clenching my jaw to stop me shouting at people.
OldMike
29-06-19, 02:09 PM
I yelled at Si earlier, he was only trying to help out by distracting Polo but he was moving around the room and it was doing my head in. I did apologise but I shouldn’t have done it. I went to bed and slept all afternoon
Tiredness can make you a bit snappy so a good sleep would help.
Don't worry about it Si's a laid back dude and has probably already forgotten about it.
You’re right, Mike, he did ;)
How are you doing lovely?
I’m ok, I’ve been reading in the garden all afternoon :)
Morning lovely, how are you?
I’ve got a headache and sore throat sohave taken it easy today. Tomorrow, I’m seeing the pain doctor at 11.30
Good luck. Taking notes? If you can, let us know how you get on?
OldMike
01-07-19, 09:13 AM
Hope all goes well with the pain doc Princess (panda)
magie06
01-07-19, 10:26 AM
Best of luck today honey. Thinking of you.
Jaquaia
01-07-19, 11:16 AM
Hope it goes well
(hi) so my pain doc (who is the loveliest man in the world - even Si falls under his spell ;)) very quickly got that I really didn’t want to up my zomorph dose, as I’d had such a horrid time at 60mg before inc falling asleep while eating, and especially as I’ve got the Bath assessment coming up. So, as before the virus I was doing really well on 30mg and was only flaring since I was ill, he’s given me a big bottle of oromorph to take as and when as a temporary measure
Jaquaia
01-07-19, 03:28 PM
That sounds really positive!
How do you feel about that as an option? I think it sounds positive!
Relieved he wasn’t pushing increase in zomorph. Though Si did say when we came out that he wouldn’t have allowed it - he could have told me that going in, the sod ;). It just means I feel more in control itms
I'm so pleased for you lovely! Well done Si too! :)
Morning :). I had a lovely evening - Si and Jess went to the cinema so Katie and I spent the whole evening nattering. Mind you, I wasn’t sleepy at all so was up til 1.30am. Not much on the agenda today except Wimbledon. Hopefully there’ll be a few more upsets, as long as one of them isn’t Konta or Federer ;)
Sounds like a great evening and I'm glad today is a pacing day!
It’s been an odd day. Katie was home sick but didn’t want to be alone, Jess didn’t surface til after lunch and I didn’t really know what to do with myself. I went to Housegroup but just felt disconnected really.
Tomorrow, the plasterers coming to repair and replace my water damage ceiling outside the living room and kitchen door.
Oh nothing serious with Katie I hope - It's nice she wanted you...
Can you rest today? I know you'll have the plasterers, but can you pretty much leave them to it?
Katie’s worse today, bless her, she’s lost her voice.
It’s going to be a logistical nightmare today but the plasterer seems willing to be flexible
Glad he's going to be flexible! Poor Katie - hot lemon and honey?
Lol I made her try that yesterday, it didn’t go down well (rofl)
My personal cure is port... Having left it open to breathe... About 1/2 a bottle normally helps ;)
I’m planning some mango vodka, though I haven’t lost my voice (prevention is better than cure, right?)
Jaquaia
04-07-19, 08:35 PM
The alcohol will kill any germs so you go and prevent away ;)
Absolutely prevention is better than cure! :)
We’ve been to the Greyhound Lifeline (the kennels where we adopted Polo and Luna from) Afternoon Tea today. Saw lots and lots of gorgeous doggies :). Polo and I are knackered now lol
OldMike
06-07-19, 06:32 PM
I’m planning some mango vodka, though I haven’t lost my voice (prevention is better than cure, right?)
Cheers, after all a vodka a day keeps the sore throat away ;)
Strugglingmum
06-07-19, 07:44 PM
I’m planning some mango vodka, though I haven’t lost my voice (prevention is better than cure, right?)
Mango..... one of your 5 a day;)
Sounds like a lovely doggy day. Home to rest lovely lady??
Aww! Did Polo make new friends?
He was a star! He was so happy chatting to all the other greyhounds(aka sniffing their bits ;)). I think he misses Having Luna around. Si and I had a bit of a tiff, actually, because I was pushing him to think about getting another one and he told me he doesn’t think we should adopt another even after Polo goes. He says it’s not fair because I can’t walk them
But you have a dog walker don't you? And greyhounds aren't known for wanting lots of long walks etc are they? I thought they were happy lounging for most of the day?
OldMike
07-07-19, 09:34 AM
I think adopting another greyhound would be great as Suzi says you already have a dog walker (I think) and greyhounds don't need much walking, I'm sure you can bring Si in to line with your thinking ;)
I am soooooo tired, my brain’s not functioning and I’m not making sense at all :s
Jaquaia
07-07-19, 01:52 PM
Hope you're resting lovely (panda)
I agree! You'd better be being kind to you and resting and pacing...
Jaquaia
07-07-19, 02:13 PM
Ooh! That sounds quite forceful!!! You better do as she says (giggle)
magie06
07-07-19, 04:34 PM
Are you resting?
(rofl) I am, dozing, watching TV and more dozing :)
I’ve been working on my pain questionnaire for Bath on friday. I’ve done half but need to give it a rest until tomorrow, methinks. So, tennis and cross stitch this afternoon. Si’s come home early so we’re off to see toy story later :)
I’ve also booked 2 appointment to see the Motability experts at our local Ford and Skoda garages. I’ve had the paperwork through for leasing my next car. I have to admit, I don’t like new car shopping - it’s impossible to figure out what accessories and features go with what car vs what I need and what’s not going to cost a fortune. And then once you decide, it’s normally weeks/months til it arrives
(panda) When are the appointments?
OldMike
08-07-19, 04:03 PM
I hate questionnaires too, can't help you with choosing a car apart from don't choose a colour that looks like a fresh turd, to my dismay I've see one or two about with that colour (giggle). I'd go for yellow then it would make playing Yellow Car (as in Cabin Pressure) more interesting (giggle)
We’re going to the garages Saturday. I know I’ll be exhausted from Friday but I have to get this car sorted ASAP.
Mike, unfortunately (maybe fortunately) motability cars have very limited colour choices. It’s looking like whatever car we get will be white ;)
Why only ford and skoda? Or is this just the start?
There’s limited cars available on the motability scheme and these 2 are the only ones suitable for us - ie estate cars big enough for the wheelchair and Polo, when we have to take both (polo needs a lot of height and depth to avoid being stressed out)
Have you thought about a Zafira they have a really big boot ? and am sure Vauxhall do motobility as Ryan had one from them though it was some years ago now
Sorry, I won’t have a Vauxhall. Even if I did, the only available ones are Astra’s. The list of cars changes every 3 months
OldMike
09-07-19, 02:24 PM
Sorry, I won’t have a Vauxhall. Even if I did, the only available ones are Astra’s. The list of cars changes every 3 months
A quick look at the motobility website it says there's 2000 vehicles on the scheme, Skoda is a good choice as it was taken over by VW, unlike when my dad had a Skoda 25+ years ago when you got jokes like, Question: "What do you call a skip with a roof?" Answer: A Skoda (rofl)
Yes, Mike, but you need to filter out a lot. In my case I need an estate (NOT SUV), automatic, petrol, with rear view camera, and without me paying thousands in an advance payment, which meant we were left with less than 5 cars - and I won’t have an Astra.
Strugglingmum
09-07-19, 05:24 PM
I suppose in a way, limited choice means it is easier to choose???
Choosing between 4 has to be easier than choosing between 2000?
Hope you find something right for you..... even if it is the colour of turd(giggle)
We were spoilt with our current car. When we were looking, this car was immediately available because another motability customer cancelled at the last minute. He’d arranged for all the bells and whistles to be added to it so we got a much better spec car for the reduced advance payment we were prepared to pay. That’s not likely to happen this time so we’re having to adjust our expectations, unless we find £3000 just lying around lol. And, unfortunately, we’re not allowed to keep this car any longer :(
Anyone who was wondering, a motability car is not free. The mobility element of my PiP is taken away and a good proportion of the cars require an advance payment of anything up to £6,500. That’s not to say I’m ungrateful as it’s a great scheme that makes cars accessible for those who need it, but it’s not something for nothing
I'd hope that anyone would realise that it's never something for nothing....
Hope you work things out....
Sorry I might have missed this but why is it that you are not allowed to keep this car any longer?
You keep them for 3 years unless that has changed at a guess it is because or partly because a brand new car has its first mot which is to check its safe to be on the road etc at 3 years old.
You keep them for 3 years unless that has changed at a guess it is because or partly because a brand new car has its first mot which is to check its safe to be on the road etc at 3 years old.
Yep, over 3 years they reckon they start costing too much
magie06
10-07-19, 12:55 PM
My dad has his car adjusted for my mum to travel in. Unfortunately mum will never travel in the front seat of a car again. However, dad doesn't pay the VAT on a new car, because of the modification. Like in the UK, he has to keep his car under 3 years old, to be able to claim the VAT reduction.
Now, dad is not driving anymore. He turned 85 in May, and his GP has said that he is better off in the passenger seat. My dad's latest car was purchased just last August.
My sister travels over and back to Athenry every day, which is a round trip of about 55 miles. My other sister wants dad to will Sarah the car, because of all the help she has given them for the last few years. It remains to be seen.
You're quiet - are you OK?
Mind reader ;). No, I’m not. Si’s taken the week off last minute and I’m beginning to understand why. I popped to the doctor to pick up some paperwork for Bath and intended to have a mooch round the home and clothing sections in Sainsbury's on my way home. Except, I bottled it, drove straight home, shaking.
Si says it was my coping mechanisms kicking in, telling me I couldn’t cope with it atm, I feel like an idiot
Jaquaia
10-07-19, 04:59 PM
Well you're not. It's completely understandable with everything you've got going on (panda)
magie06
10-07-19, 07:44 PM
You have a lot on ATM. Your spoons are going out left, right and centre. Can you take it easy tomorrow?
OldMike
10-07-19, 08:24 PM
You're certainly not, your body is telling you to rest up (bear) (panda)
An idiot? You? I think not! Sweetheart you have so much invested in the whole thing with Bath as well as everything else you have going on.... Be kind to you. I'm glad Si's going to be at home with you. I think right now you could do with the support...
Tomorrow I’m being taken out for posh afternoon tea by my ex MIL :) I know it’s not resting but I think it qualifies as self care ...
That sounds nice! You and your ex mil get on really well don't you?
We do, she’s a lovely woman. When Jon and I broke up, she told me that they will always consider me their daughter in law
I think that's really awesome!
I’m blessed with my ex in laws, and I’m blessed with my parents. This from my dad, in Mallorca, today
‘Having scrambled up a volcanic lump I couldn’t resist being artistic and creating a small rock pile for my beautiful daughter Paula. As she has some mobility problems, I take it on myself to build rock piles here and there as a marker from her on the world.
It is Mount Teide in the distance, an active volcano on Tenerife in the Canary Islands. The summit is 12198 ft. above sea level and 24600 above ocean floor level. Highest point in Spain and highest point above sea level in the islands of the Atlantic.
I think my rock pile just beats it.
x’
https://i.ibb.co/fChckts/D373-C0-CE-D776-4-EE9-A94-F-0035-C141-C71-E.jpg (https://ibb.co/19DSrKk)
Jaquaia
11-07-19, 12:08 PM
That's so lovely!
magie06
11-07-19, 12:10 PM
Oh Paula, that's a lovely thing to do! And yes, your rock pile is definitely higher. ;)
That's amazing!!!! I love that idea! Well done to your Daddy for making me cry!
Strugglingmum
11-07-19, 02:47 PM
This is one of the sweetest, most beautiful things I have seen in a long time.
You are indeed blessed with your daddy. He is blessed with you. X
OldMike
11-07-19, 04:32 PM
Every time I see a rock pile I'll think of you Paula :)
My dad was the opposite every time he saw a pile of rocks or a stone wall he used pinch a few rocks and take them home to build a rockery.
That is so sweet and thoughtfull. Wow.
Thinking of you today... Just remember to be as open and honest as you can be... And LOTS of resting and pacing please.
Jaquaia
12-07-19, 09:03 AM
(panda)
OldMike
12-07-19, 09:05 AM
Hope all goes well today Paula (bear) (panda)
Strugglingmum
12-07-19, 10:15 AM
All the best Paula. X
Hi all! Well, yesterday was long (we were out of the house from 8.30 to 5.00). The appointment was 2 1/2 hours long, we saw the pain consultant, psychologist and physiotherapist. Most of the time was with the psych who was lovely but asked a lot of really tough questions. Of course, she started with ‘tell me about your parents’ (rofl). We are both exhausted.
The pain management programs focus on helping you learn to live a full life with the pain, not curing the pain, and are run by the psychology team, not the pain consultant or physio, although obviously they do have an input. There are two programs, one of which is no supervision/carers, living in an independent ‘apartment’ on site and with a program 9-5 every day. It’s going to be very intensive. This is the one they want me to do. However, it is a 4 week program. They think I’m ideally suited for it, esp as I’ve had all the other treatment/intervention there is to have.
I’ve decided to do it. I have to try - there’s nothing else for me to try, I have to give it a go. The program will probably start in the autumn.
i am so proud of you for taking this opportunity and deciding to try it. It'd be really easy to just say "no" or "that's too hard so no." You haven't. You've acknowledged it's going to be really, really tough but you're going to try anyway. So proud of you!
Well, the last 24 hours have been productive ;). We’ve ordered my new car! A Ford Focus Estate Active X in chrome blue. It’s lovely, has and does everything we need and actually has a better spec than my current car. I needn’t have worried, phew
OldMike
13-07-19, 11:58 AM
You've done really well Paula dealing with the last 24 hours and you've got a new car ordered, Active X sounds like the car a spy would have "engaging active X capt'n now we's invisible" (I do talk some tripe).
Definitely a rest day for you today Paula (panda)
Hooray! When do you get your new car?
12-14 weeks :/ but I’m really excited - I’ve got heated seats!! ;)
OldMike
13-07-19, 01:35 PM
12-14 weeks :/ but I’m really excited - I’ve got heated seats!! ;)
My bro in laws car has heated seats and must've been left on because not long after sitting in the car the smell of my roast but-tocks was wafting up my nose (rofl)
magie06
13-07-19, 02:25 PM
My aunt has heated seats but my cousin doesn't. My aunt doesn't like driving in frosty weather, and always gives out to my cousin that her seats are cold! (rofl)
Strugglingmum
13-07-19, 02:46 PM
Well done with eveything Paula. I'm really pleased for you.
New car sounds lovely.
Wow, you did manage all that. That is awesome. You deserve all the good things that come on your path.
I’ve done some cross stitch but my brain seems to be shutting down now. I keep dozing off sitting upright lol
Jess is off to Paris on Tuesday so I’ve got to start getting my head around getting her sorted. But that’s tomorrows job
Heated seats are fab! I don't have any though ;)
Is it a trip for fun with friends? What sorting does she need?
She’s going for a week with a few friends. They’re getting the Eurostar and have an Airbnb apartment. She’s a bit disorganised, that’s all, so I’m getting a bit stressed that she’s not ready.
Lol! As long as she has her passport then whatever she forgets she can either buy in Paris or do without!
Don't forget the awesome Aspasia lives in Paris, so if she gets stuck then there is always a friendly English and French speaking lovely person who would go to the aid of a damsel(s) in distress!
Oh yes, so she is! Thanks :)
Not a problem. Are you guys friends on FB? Want me to "hook you up?" - She was one of Hazels emergency contacts when she went to Brittany for the week ;)
Let me talk to Jess first, she gets funny about me ‘helping’ her
OldMike
14-07-19, 10:57 AM
The secret is helping Jess without her thinking you're helping her (Mike's parenting tip #195) (giggle)
Had a bit of a result today about my new car. When we ordered it, the dealer told us the motability advance payment was £495. Last week I received 2 letters from Motability, one saying it was £495 and one saying it was £695. Turns out the dealer had quoted for the hatchback and we’re getting an estate but, as it was their quote that was wrong, we only have to pay the lower payment (party)
OldMike
22-07-19, 02:09 PM
Woohoo result (party)
YAY! When does it arrive?
Not til October. Which means I’ll probably pick it up and then go to Bath ;)
So, I’m trying not to freak out atm. I have a severe fear of ants (shudders) and there’s reports of swarms of flying ants all over my town (shudders more)
Baby powder. Seriously do all the outsides of your doors etc and they won't cross it!
For the record I hate them too!
magie06
22-07-19, 06:55 PM
The baby powder really works. And anything with that many legs, you can keep!
I hate them too. Suck them up in the hoover or get Si to do it xx
We had an impromptu meal at the pub with Katie. It was lovely and we’re all stuffed! So we’re going to watch a Disney movie and chill :)
And no ants!
YAY for Disney and no ants!
Oh my.life! I was looking at customising one of my pairs of crutches with coloured duct tape. I was looking at the glittery ones and my brain actually went ‘hmm maybe I’ll go for something subtle’ ................
Jaquaia
23-07-19, 11:03 PM
:o:o:o
WTAF? Why on earth would you "go subtle?"
(rofl) I have no idea what came over me! In the end, (I’m blaming heat stroke lol) I ordered some white glitter tape. Not completely subtle ;)
Oh, and, MY BABY GIRL IS HOME!! Got in about half past midnight. I can breathe again!
magie06
24-07-19, 12:27 PM
I trust she had a brilliant time?
I think so- she’s exhausted so hasn’t really talked much ;)
magie06
24-07-19, 12:30 PM
Poor love. I love trying new places but I hate traveling. She really has to get back to planet home again.
Oh yes, particularly as we’re going to start pushing her to find a job ....
Lol! IS she thinking about uni?
Hooray for the glitter!!
No uni, absolutely not :)
Cool, what's her chosen path? :)
Right now, get some work experience while she waits for the Civil Service to restart their apprenticeships. I just want her to build her confidence - tho Paris seems to have helped in that respect
Awesome! That's really positive!
Mum’s visiting today (party) so Jess and I are taking her to this massive garden centre/cafe/home and lifestyle place nearby. Really looking forward to having a mummy hug.
Jaquaia
25-07-19, 08:04 AM
Hope you have a lovely day!
magie06
25-07-19, 02:40 PM
I hope you've found some place with A/C. Enjoy your day.
OldMike
25-07-19, 02:44 PM
Have a lovely day Paula (panda)
It’s been a lovely day but I’m really struggling. CRPS and heat don’t mix (I may have mentioned that before ;)) and I’m thinking I might need to take a top up of morphine .....
Jaquaia
25-07-19, 05:35 PM
Do whatever you need to do lovely
Do what you need to do and rest love....
I’ve managed without the morphine top up :). Si’s not home til late tonight so I’ve been bingeing Escape to the Chateau and ordering a dozen dresses to try to find one for my friend’s surprise 50th ;)
Jaquaia
25-07-19, 09:24 PM
I'm in love with a Joe Brown's dress at the moment!
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It's good that you're managing without the extra meds. But genuinely managing or being stubborn?
Using distraction first .....
I love Joe Browns they never suit my body shape :(
Hope the distraction has worked love... Don't be too stubborn though ;)
I love ‘Escape to the Chateau’ too
Morning gorgeous, how are you today?
It is! Did you manage to rest at all?
Yeah, I’m ok today. I saw my curate and had Holy Communion, which always helps :)
My asthma’s been bad today and I’ve been coughing all day. I’m a bit puzzled as to why. Still, I’m overdue an asthma check with the nurse so I’ll make that appointment on Monday (before anybody tells me off ;))
We’re trying to find me a powered wheelchair as it’s going to be a lot easier to navigate a hospital for 4 weeks if I have one. They are soooo expensive. I’ve found one nearly new for £895 on eBay (brand new it’d be £1700) but Si wanted to look at renting them. Short term hire is c£80 PER WEEK!!!! And a yearly lease is c£30 a week. That’s a massive cost. We’re still searching ......
Jaquaia
27-07-19, 09:48 PM
Is there any grants you can apply for to help with the cost?
I doubt it, we’re hardly in ‘need’. We have the money, there’s just other things we could do with spending it on, eg fixing my tooth
Jaquaia
27-07-19, 09:57 PM
Local mobility shops?
Have you tried things like gumtree? What about asking at mobility stockists for refurbished? Or shop display?
Yep, we’re trying lots of options
Don't forget if you are buying new you don't have to pay VAT...
How are you today lovely?
Yes, I know ;). I’m fine, thanks
Jaquaia
28-07-19, 10:57 AM
Really fine or brave little soldier fine?
Lol better than I have been recently
Really fine or brave little soldier fine?
I can't believe you got away with asking her like that! (rofl)
What's on your agenda for today?
Jaquaia
28-07-19, 11:18 AM
(giggle)
Cross stitch, watching more Escape to the Chateau and maybe some scheduling for the FB page ahead of my holiday ;)
I refer to my earlier post (rofl) as that’s pretty much how it went. ;)
I’ve been treacle wading today and dozing off the minute I stop doing anything. I have no idea why, even my brain feels sluggish (yawn)
Jaquaia
29-07-19, 09:35 PM
Yep. I'm exactly the same today.(panda)
Maybe all the stress of new cars, Jess being away, looking at wheelchairs etc is all going to take it's toll.....
A second day of fighting sleep all day. I purposefully made sure I had the car so I could do errands but as soon as I got back and sat down, my eyes tried to close. I hope this doesn’t continue as we’re going away on Monday .....
Then let you rest now to hopefully be feeling brighter next week. How long are you away for? Is Jess having a party?
Lol Jess wouldn’t have a party, she’s not a natural hostess - that requires way too much peopling (giggle)
We’re away from 5th to 12th. Sod’s law, our first holiday in 3 years and it’s going to (swear)(swear)(swear)(swear) down .....
(rofl) It's good that she doesn't want to do parties!
You'll have a great time, no matter how much it rains!
I’ve had a lovely afternoon with my bf :) and then another hour of Jess chatting to me (mostly politics and how she believes women only get broody because we’ve been conditioned that way (rofl))
Shattered now though but good shattered itms
Strugglingmum
01-08-19, 07:14 PM
Thats lovely. X
OldMike
01-08-19, 10:16 PM
I’ve had a lovely afternoon with my bf :) and then another hour of Jess chatting to me (mostly politics and how she believes women only get broody because we’ve been conditioned that way (rofl))
Shattered now though but good shattered itms
My sister never got broody and neither have I (rofl) glad you had a great afternoon with your friend and now you and Jess have sorted out Brexit I can sleep easy (giggle) seriously though it's great you and Jess had a good chat.
seriously though it's great you and Jess had a good chat.
I know, considering how rough things have been between us up til recently, I’m very grateful for days like this :)
That's awesome! So glad that things between you and Jess are getting stronger!
That’s come around quick, got a letter telling me I have to reapply for my driving licence again........
OldMike
03-08-19, 02:28 PM
Oh do you need to reapply each year?
Oh do you need to reapply each year?
Yes, because of my medical issues
Katie went clubbing last night and her friend stayed over. Frankie’s a little ‘poorly’ this morning so I came to the rescue with water and paracetamol ;). Otherwise, today is packing day (party)
Hooray for pacing..... Well done for going to the rescue!
I’m off to the Cotswolds in the morning :) see you on the other side! (party)
Enjoy hunni and rest and pace
Strugglingmum
05-08-19, 04:58 AM
Enjoy lovely lady. Xxx
I hope you have a lovely holiday Paula xx
Hope you're having a good journey. Be kind to you x
OldMike
05-08-19, 10:40 AM
Have a pleasant journey see you on the flip side :)
Allalone
09-08-19, 06:10 PM
Hope you’re enjoying your time away.xx
Helloooooooooo! We’re back from beautiful Cotswolds :). It was a wonderful holiday, we’re all relaxed. We'll happily go back, and it was so lovely just the two of us. But our dog is broken lol, he hasn’t moved from the sofa for the last 6 and half hours!
So, my main news is that I had a call while we were driving to our stunning home for a week. I’ve been put on the pain management course at Bath starting 27th August, for 4 weeks. Much, much earlier than I was expecting to go (months earlier). So, I’ve got home to a pack full of information, forms to complete and anxiety. And I’ve got a load to do before I go. Already today I’ve cancelled 3 separate hospital/doctor appointments I was due to go to but now won’t be here for. And, I’ve had to reapply for my driving licence, as they’re not allowing me one for more than a year, so I’ve dealt with that today.
Jaquaia
12-08-19, 06:20 PM
So pleased you had a wonderful time! You deserved it and I think you needed it too!
I understand the anxiety, hopefully the course will help you (panda)
So good to see you! So glad you had a good holiday! You sound so refreshed!
Glad you had a good holiday hunni xx
Strugglingmum
13-08-19, 05:25 PM
So good to hear you had a lovely time. Welcome back. Missed you.(Kiss)
Great news about your pain course. I know its sooner but just think, the sooner you get there, the sooner you get help. X
Thanks SM ( andyou’re absolutely right) :)
How are you doing gorgeous?
Honestly, a bit freaked out at having to be away from home, dealing with ‘stuff’ physically and mentally for a month. And stressed at how much I’ve got to do to get ready. And both Katie and Jess have been ill today with a nasty tummy bug
Jaquaia
13-08-19, 07:54 PM
Would lists help?
OK, so can you prioritise? What has to be done, what can be done by others and what can wait?
I’m trying to. The biggest thing we’ve got to work out is who’s going to look after Polo. He can’t be left, he takes meds 3 times a day and he doesn’t cope with change.
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