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Lucy
30-06-18, 07:49 PM
Hi there,

My name is Lucy and I am new to this site.

I have had depression for about 5 years but feel like I am going through a really rough patch at the moment. I’m just looking to speak to others who understand and find out other people’s ways of trying to manage their depression.

Any advice would be gratefully appreciated.

Paula
30-06-18, 08:59 PM
Hi Lucy and welcome (hi). Are you getting any treatment? ADs, talking therapies etc? Do you have support from friends and family?

Drew
30-06-18, 09:06 PM
Hi, Lucy. I’m not in the best place to give advice as I’ve only just begun my journey out of depression. There are some very helpful and caring people on this forum and they have been a great help to me. The most important thing is that you have recognised your depression and you are looking for ways to deal with it. Well done for starting the journey.

Lucy
30-06-18, 11:00 PM
Thank you for your replies. I take one medication for for anxiety which I think is helping and I was referred to talking therapies but hey thought the best thing to do would be an online course but it didnt work. The thing is, I really don’t feel I can tell my family I think they just wouldn’t understand. I feel I really disappointed my dad today, but I just couldn’t tell him the real reasons that I couldn’t go out. I just can’t face people. Did you both feel better when you told your family, did they understand? I’ve cut myself off from nearly everyone over the past 6 months but I realise it is really not the best thing to do.

Thanks for your time,
Lucy.

Suzi
30-06-18, 11:26 PM
Hi Lucy and welcome to DWD!
How long have you been on the medication for? When did you last talk to your GP about how you are feeling? Did you tell them what happened with the counselling?
Have you looked at www.time-to-change.org.uk ? They have some great ideas to help you to start talking to those around you about how you are feeling. Have you not told anyone how bad you are feeling? Sweetheart if you had a physical illness would you talk to those around you then? This is no different.

OldMike
01-07-18, 07:44 AM
Hi Lucy, I didn't tell my parents about my depression (didn't know it was depression then but knew there was something terribly wrong) until things got so bad it was obvious I wasn't well, my mum got me to the doctor, I think mum understood a little but my dad never did. It was about 25 years ago when my depression reached the point where I could barely function nowadays people are much more aware as to how crippling depression can be.

I'd try and tell your parents rather than hide it away and make excuses for not going out (I used to do something similar when asked out I'd make all sorts of excuses as I was just scared of going out where there were people).

The more open you are the easier it becomes :)

Paula
01-07-18, 10:29 AM
Thank you for your replies. I take one medication for for anxiety which I think is helping and I was referred to talking therapies but hey thought the best thing to do would be an online course but it didnt work. The thing is, I really don’t feel I can tell my family I think they just wouldn’t understand. I feel I really disappointed my dad today, but I just couldn’t tell him the real reasons that I couldn’t go out. I just can’t face people. Did you both feel better when you told your family, did they understand? I’ve cut myself off from nearly everyone over the past 6 months but I realise it is really not the best thing to do.

Thanks for your time,
Lucy.

I didn’t tell my family as much as my family forced me to see there was a problem (my mum frogmarched me down to the doctors, I was 28, married with 2 kids and had been ill for 12 years). I had mixed feelings - I was grateful to find out what was wrong but angry this had happened to me. But over the years, the support of my friends and family has been vital in my recovery and in keeping me in one piece