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Tom2202
25-03-18, 04:22 PM
I think my depression and horrible thoughts almost always stem from feeling lonely and bored.
Does anyone have any tips on how to beat this?
I know, I know, "get out and meet new people" is what everyone says, but I can be very shy and have no self confidence these days....
I do have friends and still socialise with them sometimes but they're all so family oriented towards their kids etc it's hard to see them more than maybe once a month.

Paula
25-03-18, 04:31 PM
Have you thought about doing some courses/studying something you’re interested in? Sometimes doing something like that can get you in touch with people with similar interests

Suzi
25-03-18, 09:05 PM
Or social meets from things like meetup?

Overwhelmed
26-03-18, 11:07 PM
I am the same. When alone my mind fixated on the bad stuff. My psychotherapist told me I need to go out and do stuff and I need a routine. An exercise or mindfulness class is good as it gets you out and helps with mh (note to self, I must go back to tai chi). Sometimes I find I can lose myself in a good film and stop the racing thoughts. Do you have hobbies. Basically when lonely you need distraction techniques.

Mattypompy
27-03-18, 07:07 AM
I know exactly what you mean. I've been the same for many years and it is very difficult.

As the contributor above mentioned distraction techniques are the best. Different environments, exercise, something spontaneous, good reading material or just something out of the routine can possibly help ruminating…

OldMike
27-03-18, 10:15 AM
Hobbies whether it is crosswords, jigsaws, reading, gardening, making models all these things help.