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Juicylucy
17-02-18, 10:30 PM
Here goes sat on my own other half is in bed. Kids are in bed. Trying to get him up not happening. My inner speaker in my head is ripping me up inside.

Suzi
17-02-18, 10:33 PM
Why are you trying to get him up? Can you do something different?

Paula
17-02-18, 10:47 PM
I’m with Suzi, why do you want to get him up?

Juicylucy
17-02-18, 10:48 PM
Just to chat how I'm feeling. And I'm sat Here listening to some decent music that has a proper meaning x

Paula
17-02-18, 10:54 PM
Hunni, try to remember that dealing with a loved one who has depression is really hard. He needs his space as much as you need to talk. There needs to be a bit of give and take

Juicylucy
17-02-18, 10:58 PM
I see what you mean.
Sat thinking why me with this illness. I've seen him for 4 hours today.
What does it mean when your feeling like your being ripped up inside.

Paula
17-02-18, 10:59 PM
I hate to say it but why not you? Depression doesn’t discriminate, I’m afraid, it can hit anyone.

Juicylucy
17-02-18, 11:02 PM
Absolute horrible illness this.

Paula
17-02-18, 11:02 PM
Yes it is

Juicylucy
17-02-18, 11:15 PM
Roll on Monday. Hoping I get the help I need. What would a doctor firstly say to me. X

Paula
17-02-18, 11:17 PM
They’ll ask how you’ve been feeling over the last few weeks, ask you about your symptoms, that sort of thing.

Juicylucy
17-02-18, 11:22 PM
Just can prepare what's gonna be fired at me really. I'm a person that needs to be geared up for what's g9nna happen x

Juicylucy
18-02-18, 12:06 AM
Feel like at the min like I've got wires in my head and they've been pulled apart and I've been wired back very different x

Juicylucy
18-02-18, 11:18 AM
Same feeling different day. ����

S deleted
18-02-18, 11:41 AM
Just can prepare what's gonna be fired at me really. I'm a person that needs to be geared up for what's g9nna happen x

I totally get this. A fear of the unknown. I too wanna know everything before hand so I can prepare myself. This might give you a better idea https://www.nhs.uk/Tools/Pages/depression.aspx

Suzi
18-02-18, 12:02 PM
What have you got planned for today? Maybe you could do something fun with the kids - just to distract yourself from how you are feeling?

Juicylucy
18-02-18, 12:05 PM
I. Hoping to make a roast dinner then build myself up for a walk out. Wrap the kids up and go. Kids can't wait. But at this moment I really can't be bothered. X

Suzi
18-02-18, 12:19 PM
Sometimes you have to push yourself and going out for some walk and exercise is actually really helpful..

Juicylucy
18-02-18, 12:30 PM
I'm hoping I actually do get out today. These can't wait to get wrapped up and splash in puddles x

Niffler
18-02-18, 12:48 PM
I hope you get out today lovely x sending you strength

Juicylucy
18-02-18, 12:59 PM
Thanks lovely. Dinner just on now. Will update when and if I go out without havi g literally heart attack. Xx

Juicylucy
18-02-18, 03:09 PM
Heads up I've ate what I could off my dinner. Now to talk other half into having a walk out some fresh air. Xx

Juicylucy
18-02-18, 04:23 PM
Argh gonna scream before the day is out. X

Suzi
18-02-18, 05:12 PM
No screaming, but did you get out and get some exercise? Wrap up warmly, it's freezing!

Paula
18-02-18, 05:16 PM
(panda)

Juicylucy
18-02-18, 06:35 PM
Yo I'm back. Not long came in. Other half gone sleep. My mate just d9ne a show so watching that plus walked for 4 miles x

Suzi
18-02-18, 06:43 PM
Glad you got out for a walk. Did the kids enjoy it?

Niffler
18-02-18, 06:58 PM
well done :) did you enjoy the fresh air? x

Juicylucy
18-02-18, 07:39 PM
Yeah. But felt like hubby was rushing to get home. Kids came back dirty nothing a shower hasn't sorted. Get these 2 bed and bam back to feeling poo x

Paula
18-02-18, 09:00 PM
Have you got any plans for tomorrow?

Suzi
18-02-18, 09:21 PM
Can you plan things to do to help you get out of the house at all? Do the children go back to school tomorrow?

Juicylucy
18-02-18, 09:26 PM
He works nights sleeps the bloody days away. And no no e only just finished x

That d9ctor is calling f0r me tomorrow. Need to be up and ting at 8am x

Suzi
18-02-18, 09:32 PM
Please try not double posting. You have been asked lots of times.

Do you mean that the doctor is telephoning you or coming to your house?

Juicylucy
18-02-18, 09:40 PM
Sorry I keep double posting. I'm gonna call them to make appointment. Other half went mad today because he couldn't wash the car. And I'm trying to get out with the kids without panicking over stuff. Xx

Suzi
18-02-18, 10:11 PM
What do you mean he "went mad" because he couldn't wash the car?
Make sure you do call them, your health is important.

Niffler
18-02-18, 10:19 PM
I'm with Suzi.

Juicylucy
18-02-18, 11:08 PM
He text me saying car wash was far 2 busy. Picks us up next rhing hes goes off on one. Saying cant get what i want you lot get what you want. Very quite when we went out. Kids enjoyed it.

Juicylucy
19-02-18, 09:26 AM
120 calls to get through to my doctor and can't get in till weds. Gonna keep.posting in here. Xx

Suzi
19-02-18, 11:04 AM
Tell him to clean it himself if he's that bothered!


At least you've an appointment and it's this week. That's much better than some can get.

Paula
19-02-18, 11:22 AM
Keep talking to us, lovely, it does help

Juicylucy
19-02-18, 11:30 AM
He's that bloody lazy he won't. And yep was happy when she said 9am. Yep I'll keep here. We're suppose to be out tonight for a meal. My stomach is like a washer. X

Niffler
19-02-18, 12:27 PM
Good on getting the appointment! Make sure you keep it :) he could get the kids to do it with him, a bit of fun for them too. I used to love helping my dad clean his car when I was a kid :) that way you can go relax and have a bath or have you tried meditating?

Juicylucy
19-02-18, 12:48 PM
I've not tried anything just on here and I've a very close friend. Docs weds. X

Suzi
19-02-18, 02:47 PM
Meditation is brilliant. It's well worth looking into - there are loads of guided ones on youtube.

Niffler
19-02-18, 03:00 PM
There is also an app called headspace that gives you a free trial for ten days and no obligation to sign up so may be worth a try. Before bed or first thing in the morning :) x

Juicylucy
19-02-18, 05:37 PM
Will have a look into that xx

Juicylucy
19-02-18, 08:30 PM
Heads up people. Been out again literally panicking now. Still not 100 percent well. Least I got out. Staying in tomorrow. Xx

S deleted
19-02-18, 08:36 PM
What’s caused the panic?

Paula
19-02-18, 08:43 PM
Well done for getting out, even if it did cause the panic. Take care of yourself this evening, maybe pamper yourself?

Juicylucy
19-02-18, 09:12 PM
Tonight's plan is 2 put my children to bed ring my mate who I said I'm close to whose also in recovery. Listen to music. Have any of you read the book called the secret x

Niffler
19-02-18, 09:31 PM
Please give mediation a shot. Put headphones in your phone and do it before bed, it’s about 10 minutes and you can do it longer if you need :)

The Secret is really good :)

Juicylucy
19-02-18, 09:40 PM
I'll have a look on YouTube thanks I will. My mate recommended it. Gonna have a read treat myself x

Juicylucy
19-02-18, 11:27 PM
Is it normal for my aniexty levels to fly through the roof knowing I've got the docs on weds. X

Paula
19-02-18, 11:33 PM
Yes, definitely

Juicylucy
19-02-18, 11:57 PM
Been up since half 5 and I no if info bed now I'll be awake. Got that ripping up insode feeling again x

Niffler
20-02-18, 12:29 AM
Did you have a read and listen to music? X

Juicylucy
20-02-18, 08:40 AM
No book yet. Need to buy it off amazon. And yes to music. X

Juicylucy
20-02-18, 09:25 AM
Got up far 2 quick this morning room is spinning and got that sick feeling. I'm so exhausted. X

Suzi
20-02-18, 11:28 AM
Are you eating and drinking properly?

Juicylucy
20-02-18, 12:03 PM
Tbh no. Last night was the best night I've ate. Trying to eat 2 meals at least a day. Exhausted after all this mind thinking. X

Paula
20-02-18, 12:07 PM
Are you drinking enough?

Juicylucy
20-02-18, 12:26 PM
4 litres of water plus tea. X

S deleted
20-02-18, 12:49 PM
4 ltrs!!!! No wonder you don’t wanna eat!

Suzi
20-02-18, 02:08 PM
If you don't eat you aren't giving your body what it needs to be able to work properly and heal..... Please eat love.

Juicylucy
20-02-18, 02:42 PM
I've had breaki this morning gonna try some dinner. Make something promise you. Is it nor.al to feel.so bloated once I've ate x

S deleted
20-02-18, 02:48 PM
If you’re drinking that much I’d think you would be bloated.

Juicylucy
20-02-18, 03:14 PM
I'll cut the water down. Will keep you posted. Can't wait to get the book the secret x

Paula
20-02-18, 03:43 PM
This is the nhs list of symptoms. Its not exhaustive and we all react differently but it may help you

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/clinical-depression/symptoms/

Juicylucy
20-02-18, 04:02 PM
I've had dinner. Bit late no water. Time is getting near f9r my appointment t9morrow x

Niffler
20-02-18, 05:27 PM
Not long until your appointment now. Pretty sure you are not supposed to drink more than 3 litres of water a day as it can flush out too many vital vitamins. Be careful and make sure you eat :) x

Juicylucy
20-02-18, 05:45 PM
Omg really. I'll cut down now x

Juicylucy
20-02-18, 07:21 PM
Plan tonight is 2 put kids to bed and head phones on music and see what later brings x

Niffler
20-02-18, 07:37 PM
Do you have any hobbies?

Juicylucy
20-02-18, 08:39 PM
No. Literaly when kids go bed I listen to music x

Suzi
20-02-18, 09:28 PM
Maybe you could try to take up a hobby? For example Mike and Magie are brilliant at jigsaw puzzles, Paula and I cross stitch, Jaq does beautiful jewel pictures, Magie knits, Stella makes beautiful frames/keyrings/other things and I crochet..

Juicylucy
20-02-18, 09:48 PM
Oh wow you arty people. I'm looking into getting a book called the secret get it next week. Hoping to start see things different. Just been on the phone to my mum she goes kids back in school Monday said yeah. I burst out crying. Said to her if I was a bright person id home school them. Xx

Suzi
20-02-18, 10:00 PM
What about colouring?

Juicylucy
20-02-18, 10:18 PM
I've some of them upstairs. When I'm feeling well to get them out. Or at least try. X

Paula
20-02-18, 10:20 PM
That sounds like a good idea - it’s almost a form of mindfulness

Juicylucy
20-02-18, 10:23 PM
Gonna see what happens tomorrow. I'm really scared. Xx

Juicylucy
21-02-18, 08:37 AM
Well I'm up. Docs soon. Bricking it. Feel sick. ����

S deleted
21-02-18, 09:42 AM
Just me honest. You won’t be the first person to walk in with this problem and you won’t be the last either.

Juicylucy
21-02-18, 09:56 AM
I'm here at docs. Will let you know x

Suzi
21-02-18, 10:17 AM
Hope it's going well lovely. Tell them everything.

Paula
21-02-18, 10:40 AM
How’s it go?

Juicylucy
21-02-18, 10:47 AM
Just got in. Refered for counselling and then the woman will tell doc if I need medication. Broke my heart to her x

S deleted
21-02-18, 10:54 AM
That’s a good thing. The ball is rolling now and you’ll get treatment. Well done.

Juicylucy
21-02-18, 10:55 AM
Just spoke to hubby over it and broke my heart apparently it's all my fault. X

S deleted
21-02-18, 11:03 AM
Then your hubby is an arse.

Paula
21-02-18, 11:51 AM
^^^wss. It’s not your fault. You’re ill.

Juicylucy
21-02-18, 12:02 PM
I no he is and I no I'm poorly when will he accept it. Good job I've got this forum and very good friend who is also recovering as well. My doctor was brilliant said she's really worried about me x

Niffler
21-02-18, 03:09 PM
You’ve made a massive step by getting help. Your hubby is not supporting you hunnie. Try to keep talking your doing well :)

Juicylucy
21-02-18, 04:38 PM
Hate the fact I've suffered for so long. And you lot are helping so much. My best mate came to see us not seen her since Last year and I'm a right wreck. Say g goodbye is the hardest thing ever. Means alot these replies x

Suzi
21-02-18, 05:50 PM
Your husband doesn't understand. It's really hard to be on the other side of it all... Give him a link to here if you are comfortable (we have separate men and women sections so you can both have somewhere separate to talk) and or the time-to-change website..

Juicylucy
21-02-18, 06:12 PM
Feel like I'm talking to a brick wall. I said tonhkm you don't no what it's like being poorly like this. He replies yeah just you think not normal. Nope I'm not. He d9esnt even no.im on here. X

S deleted
21-02-18, 06:49 PM
Definitely check out the time to change website.

Juicylucy
21-02-18, 08:09 PM
Can't shake this feeling off. Kids keep coming to me saying mummy don't worry we love you. I've never been this tired in all my life

Niffler
21-02-18, 08:15 PM
Your husband doesn't understand. It's really hard to be on the other side of it all... Give him a link to here if you are comfortable (we have separate men and women sections so you can both have somewhere separate to talk) and or the time-to-change website..

I’m with Suzi - being on the other side is difficult so if he reads up more he’ll start to understand. This forum is the best one I have been on so you have good support here :) saying goodbye is hard. But it just means you have something special with that person, so cherish that. Not everyone has friendships like that xx

Juicylucy
21-02-18, 08:38 PM
Not as if she lives half hour away can call for a brew and a chat but 3 hours. Feel better than I did since being on here but I'm not gonna get better in 30 seconds. Xx

Suzi
21-02-18, 10:15 PM
No you're not and you need the help, support and understanding of those around you too......

Juicylucy
21-02-18, 10:29 PM
I need to pluck up the courage to explain to my 9 year old that im poorly I'm trying to get well. Could do with my head getting un wired and put back together proper. X

Paula
21-02-18, 11:30 PM
(panda)

Juicylucy
22-02-18, 12:09 AM
Just came to bed now. Brain isn't one for switching off.

Paula
22-02-18, 12:29 AM
Night

Juicylucy
22-02-18, 08:45 AM
Hi all. Why would I feel more scared than before I reached for help. Knackered feel like I've not slept but I no I have. Xx

Paula
22-02-18, 11:20 AM
It’s scary facing up to our demons and getting better is hard work.... but worth it

Suzi
22-02-18, 11:24 AM
I need to pluck up the courage to explain to my 9 year old that im poorly I'm trying to get well. Could do with my head getting un wired and put back together proper. X
Tell them the story of the little bag of worries - you are worried about something so you put it in your worry bag, then you worry about something else so you add that in there too, and more, and more, and more. Then you start worrying about the worries in your worry bag, and more and more and more and soon it becomes so big and full that you can't move it on your own anymore and that's kind of where you are now. You are now so worried about everything that you can't deal with it on your own and it's making you feel really poorly. But you're getting help so you can start taking the worries out now and although it's going to take time, you will get there.

Or you can tell them that it's like holding a glass of water with your arm outstretched in front of you. You can stand and hold it there for a while, but after time it gets so heavy and difficult to hold that actually you struggle to hold it... It's the same as all those worries (we call them evil weevils) that go round and round in your head. The same ones that tell you that you're no good at maths, or that you haven't got friends or anyone to play with that just keep going round and round and you eventually need to get them all out. You can only do that with the help of doctors and other specially trained people. It's exhausting and really difficult, but that you're trying.

Try those, they both helped ours x

Hi all. Why would I feel more scared than before I reached for help. Knackered feel like I've not slept but I no I have. Xx
Because you know that it's going to be a hard road fighting this and you're not quite sure what lies ahead...

Juicylucy
22-02-18, 05:01 PM
Very over shelled by these comments will tell him as and when I'm ready. Just hope I sleep better tonight. It is the most exhausting thing I've ever had to deal with.

Juicylucy
22-02-18, 07:46 PM
How long does it take to recover from all this. C

Angie
22-02-18, 07:51 PM
You cant put a time limit on it sadly,

Juicylucy
22-02-18, 08:12 PM
������. Thanks for that. Forst time in 3 weeks my other half isn't asleep x

Suzi
22-02-18, 09:08 PM
How long does it take to recover from all this. C
It will take as long as it takes. You are going to have to be kind to yourself and more patient with yourself too lovely.

Juicylucy
22-02-18, 11:42 PM
Think once I start counselling it take a few months see how we get on.

Niffler
22-02-18, 11:54 PM
Don’t rush anything. Be kind to yourself :) x

S deleted
23-02-18, 12:34 AM
I think you need to stop thinking about time limits and with regard to counselling go into it with an open mind.

Juicylucy
23-02-18, 12:44 AM
Thanks people. Appreciate your advice baby steps I will take x

Juicylucy
23-02-18, 09:25 AM
Gonna try get out today with the kids. X

Paula
23-02-18, 09:43 AM
That’s a good plan, lovely

Suzi
23-02-18, 11:11 AM
Go out and go and hunt dinosaurs or something equally fun, messy and silly!

Juicylucy
23-02-18, 04:50 PM
Been out went swimming got out after 1 hour aniexty through the roof. Omg never been so scared. Hope your all okay.

Niffler
23-02-18, 04:54 PM
Was it busy? Do you think that’s what set you off? Hope you are ok and at least you got out :) x

Juicylucy
23-02-18, 05:50 PM
Manic was empty when we first went in. X

Suzi
23-02-18, 10:09 PM
I'm changing your title of this thread as some members can't see the smilies. Can you keep those for in the post and not titles please? If you don't like the change in title let me know and I'll change it to something else.

Glad you got out and got some exercise.

Juicylucy
23-02-18, 11:06 PM
Just crawled into bed now. Just hope.i sleep the night.

Suzi
24-02-18, 10:33 AM
How are you feeling today?

Juicylucy
24-02-18, 04:07 PM
Like crap. Asthma attack before. I'm knackered. Was okay not 100 percent till that happened x

Suzi
24-02-18, 05:15 PM
Are you taking your inhalers etc? Do you have any plans for this weekend?

Juicylucy
24-02-18, 05:40 PM
Yeah I am. Got put on new ones 4 weeks ago and not feeling effect yet. Another review on Monday can't cone quick enough. And no nothing. X

Suzi
24-02-18, 06:44 PM
Maybe plan something to do with your little people?

Niffler
24-02-18, 07:34 PM
Can you organise them a little treasure hunt or something if the weather is nice? Something to keep you focused while organising it and also keeps them busy and engaged :)

Angie
24-02-18, 07:37 PM
Maybe a walk I'm planning on going for one round New Millar Dam tomorrow with my youngest and the middle one if he wants to come. Going to wrap up warm and have slow wander round and hopefully come home to the slow cooker finished cooking dinner

Juicylucy
24-02-18, 08:30 PM
Like an Easter hunt you mean. I could depending how cold it is. Suppose to bucket to minus 4 tonight. Got this horrible feeling Inside. My kids are back in school Monday I'm dreading it x

Niffler
24-02-18, 08:58 PM
Doesn’t have to be an Easter hunt, thinking about it you could even do it inside. Print off some puzzles and hide them around then work with them to complete them? Sorry forgetting it’s still pretty cold out even if it is dry x

Juicylucy
24-02-18, 09:09 PM
Now that sounds a plan. I'm limited as I don't drive. And it's far for a decent walk. My aniexty is good tonight low mood all round tonight. Gonna give my mate a call later.

Suzi
24-02-18, 09:48 PM
Nothing wrong with a good old fashioned nature hunt! Mine used to love them - pick up branches etc and see what bugs they find and so on! Then it doesn't take much planning from you either!

Niffler
24-02-18, 09:53 PM
Something I always find cute is the Alexa ad, the dad and daughter swimming on the rug....not sure how old your kids are? Apologies if you’ve said, but imagination goes a long way with them. And I’m pretty old fashioned I think stuff like that beats an iPad or a movie any day x

Juicylucy
25-02-18, 09:39 AM
Will plan something to do somethi g today. Awake at 5.30 didn't get up out of bed till 7. Knackered isn't in it.

Suzi
25-02-18, 11:25 AM
I had a similar night so I sympathise... Hope you manage to do something lovely.

Juicylucy
25-02-18, 12:49 PM
My mum just gone. Need shopping. Really CBA xx

Suzi
25-02-18, 04:16 PM
Do you need shopping for today? Could you place an online shopping order instead?

Niffler
25-02-18, 05:28 PM
I was going to say online shopping is great for that :)

Juicylucy
25-02-18, 08:49 PM
I couldn't go shopping sent other half with the eldest child.aniexty and depression at it's all time low. Any 1 been medicated before seeing a health professional.

Suzi
25-02-18, 09:01 PM
Surely you need to see the health professional to get the medication?

Angie
25-02-18, 09:02 PM
You cant get medication without seeing a health professional as far as am aware

Juicylucy
25-02-18, 09:24 PM
Thanks people. It's driving me mad this. Xx

Suzi
25-02-18, 10:00 PM
Just take it one day at a time.

Juicylucy
25-02-18, 11:56 PM
Trying to suzi. Tomorrow another day.

Suzi
26-02-18, 09:35 AM
Hope today is brighter for you...

Paula
26-02-18, 12:02 PM
Hi Hunni, how are you doing?

Juicylucy
26-02-18, 11:36 PM
Another day down the pan. Sick of havi g so much angry hate feel sad all the time. ����. X

Paula
27-02-18, 12:00 AM
What have you been doing today? Any plans for tomorrow?

Niffler
27-02-18, 01:52 AM
One day at a time, tomorrow is a new day x

Juicylucy
27-02-18, 09:46 AM
Me and other half suppose to be out this afternoon aniexty through the roof. Heart is somewhere else. Not quite feeling it this morning. ��

Paula
27-02-18, 10:57 AM
Deep breaths, hunni, I know it sounds like a cliche but it does work. Are you doing something nice this afternoon?

Juicylucy
27-02-18, 11:09 AM
Just going for some dinner without the kids. Scared aniexty is through the roof. Xx

Suzi
27-02-18, 11:24 AM
What are you scared of?

Juicylucy
27-02-18, 11:47 AM
Just anxious about going. Last week went swimming on my own with the kids had a panic attack whilst I was there x

Niffler
27-02-18, 01:27 PM
Maybe try a quick meditation hun, go sit yourself in a room alone for ten minutes before you go?

Suzi
27-02-18, 02:30 PM
How bad was the panic attack? Do you have calming strategies to help you through them?

Juicylucy
27-02-18, 08:55 PM
Had to get my other half to pick me up and thought I was having heart attack. Waiting on a professional to get in contact with me.

Some 1 may as well punch me in the face today. Been out with my other half just got a new inhaler today. Not been told why I've been given it and it's to treat COPD and emphysema. I've never smoked in my life. Not happy at all x

Suzi
27-02-18, 09:18 PM
Do you know what it is that's causing you to have panic attacks?
Why aren't you happy with your new inhaler?

Paula
27-02-18, 10:09 PM
Is that a different one to what you’ve had before or is it your first inhaler? Do you have a diagnosis?

Juicylucy
27-02-18, 10:18 PM
I'm on 3 now and I've been asthmatic 27 years. I'm panicking now thinking I've got either of what I've said. ��������

Paula
27-02-18, 10:25 PM
I’ve noticed that my inhaler deals with those conditions as well as asthma. Call your dr just to check but I’m sure they would have talked to you if there was anything they were worried about

Juicylucy
27-02-18, 10:29 PM
On the leaflet that's come.with it says not treated for asthma. Treats COPD and emphysema. X

Suzi
27-02-18, 10:36 PM
Why did you get this one? Have you seen someone today?

Niffler
28-02-18, 10:50 AM
Can you speak to your doctor? At my surgery they have a nurse ring you if the doctor can’t to help you. They may be able to do that?

Juicylucy
28-02-18, 08:37 PM
I rang today no doctor available and nurse available tomorrow. Gonna ring back. Bit of kick in the teeth as well.today ask my receptionist if doc had done a referal.for help and guess what she hasnt.

Gonna loose my rag tomorrow with them

Niffler
28-02-18, 09:47 PM
Hopefully the nurse can answer your concerns and the doc does your referral. My doctors can be iffy but they have been pretty good with my anxiety. My surgery is inundated which isn’t an excuse but make sure you remind them you need it hun x

Juicylucy
28-02-18, 10:00 PM
I'll be getting on to them for sure. Not as if I don't want help I do it's hard suffering x

Paula
28-02-18, 10:04 PM
Good. Please make sure you ring them first thing tomorrow (bear)

Suzi
28-02-18, 10:19 PM
Definitely call them early and talk to them.

Juicylucy
28-02-18, 11:35 PM
I defo will be doing. Hate tryi g to cope on my own. I've no strength any more.

Suzi
01-03-18, 12:08 AM
You do and you will carry on fighting because you have to. Getting help and support is great, but it's still you that has to want it and has to do the work needed.

Paula
01-03-18, 11:05 AM
Have you rung the drs?

Juicylucy
01-03-18, 06:13 PM
Hi yeah I've rang 3 times today and rang back again. I've not had my head in the right place today. Sorry for late reply x

Niffler
01-03-18, 06:15 PM
So did you speak to a nurse or a doctor? X

Juicylucy
01-03-18, 07:03 PM
Neither of them still waiting. X

Niffler
01-03-18, 07:30 PM
Tomorrow’s a new day, try again in the morning hun, how you feeling now?

Juicylucy
01-03-18, 08:10 PM
She rang back. No more asthma treatment available now my chest is buggered. COPD I'm being treated for now. What a kick in the teeth. My head gone south. ������

Niffler
01-03-18, 08:11 PM
Aw hun, can you read or something tonight or has your books still not come? Did you get your referral sorted?

Paula
01-03-18, 08:15 PM
Have you seen a specialist?

Juicylucy
01-03-18, 08:18 PM
Referral still not been done. And how long before I loose my rag before they will listen. Ordering my book tomorrow. Can't wait.

Suzi
01-03-18, 09:16 PM
Have you got an appointment with a specialist?

Juicylucy
01-03-18, 09:31 PM
Nope nothing yet

Niffler
01-03-18, 09:39 PM
Can it be escalated hun or can you ring an emergency doctor to get the message through?

Suzi
01-03-18, 09:41 PM
Did you ask about a referral?

Juicylucy
01-03-18, 09:46 PM
Yep asle about referral and nope not been done yet. I really.d9nt no what more to do x

Suzi
01-03-18, 09:59 PM
Sorry love which referral?

Juicylucy
02-03-18, 05:41 PM
To be seen by some one medically trained. Sorry not been on not 100 percent sick of my head being burnt out with all the thinking. Head is like a washer.

Paula
02-03-18, 07:03 PM
For mental health? If so, I’m wondering if you should see a specialist for your lungs?

Juicylucy
02-03-18, 07:06 PM
Yeah and I'm gonna ring Monday and ask. I've ordered my new book as well.

Suzi
02-03-18, 07:14 PM
Sorry lovely, I'm getting confused.

Have you seen your Dr about your mental health?
Have you got a referral for your mental health?
Have you spoken to them about why you are now getting treated for COPD without seeing someone in respiratory clinic?
Was it you who said you were having an issue with alcohol? If so, how much are you drinking?

Juicylucy
02-03-18, 07:39 PM
Yes went last week not been done yet. I've an appointment weds to see the doc over my chest. And no not drank for 11 years

Suzi
02-03-18, 08:27 PM
OK thanks! :) What have you done today? Do you have plans for the weekend?

Juicylucy
03-03-18, 10:32 AM
Nothing done yesterday. Chilled out weekend. One of my kids is poorly. Other half is working. Just me and the kids at home.

Paula
03-03-18, 10:35 AM
How old are your kids?

Niffler
03-03-18, 10:36 AM
Perfect day for that treasure hunt ;)

Suzi
03-03-18, 11:53 AM
What's up with your child?

Juicylucy
03-03-18, 04:40 PM
One has really bad asthma. Had board games out play doh painting pics.

Suzi
03-03-18, 04:50 PM
Sounds like fun!

Juicylucy
04-03-18, 06:34 PM
My mind is on over drive. Had other half at home this week he couldn't get out to drive his wagon. Really don't want him to go work. ��

Suzi
04-03-18, 06:52 PM
Can I ask why you don't want him to go to work?

Juicylucy
04-03-18, 07:00 PM
Hate being home alone. Would sooner have him home. Hate it. X

Paula
04-03-18, 07:11 PM
Is there anyone else you could ask over for a coffee, maybe?

Juicylucy
04-03-18, 07:23 PM
All my mates have kids. And when I'm on my own I always think mad stuff. ��

Paula
04-03-18, 07:32 PM
Why does them having kids stop you?

Juicylucy
04-03-18, 08:06 PM
My other half works nights and they in bed n9w x

Paula
04-03-18, 08:37 PM
the Kids? Could you go over to your friends?

Suzi
04-03-18, 09:02 PM
What about going out for a coffee? A walk with a friend?

Juicylucy
07-03-18, 02:30 PM
Not been very well this week Literally been in bed most if the day. Don't no where my head is at. X

Suzi
07-03-18, 02:36 PM
Why? Mentally or physically not well lovely?

Juicylucy
07-03-18, 02:59 PM
Mentally docs are arses. Dont no how much more of thisI can take ��������

Paula
07-03-18, 03:08 PM
Not all drs are, lovely. What’s been the problem with your dr?

Juicylucy
07-03-18, 05:29 PM
Won't refer me for help anywhere. She should.of done the councillor in my docs. Where now. X

Paula
07-03-18, 05:33 PM
Can you self refer to a counsellor?

Juicylucy
07-03-18, 05:36 PM
How do I do that.

Paula
07-03-18, 05:40 PM
Do you want to pm me the area you live in and I’ll see if I can find something?

Juicylucy
07-03-18, 06:01 PM
I have done x

Suzi
07-03-18, 06:12 PM
What about seeing if there is a mind group locally? Why won't she refer you?

Juicylucy
07-03-18, 06:13 PM
They are only at night. And my other half works nights

Juicylucy
07-03-18, 06:55 PM
Apparently don't need it. But broke my heart to her other week and still she do3snt feel the need. At a very lost end.

Suzi
07-03-18, 07:21 PM
Send me a pm with where you are living and I'll see if there is something else available... Remind me how old are your children and are they both full time at school?
Can you go back and show her a mood diary where you have put exactly how you are feeling? Show her that? Or see a different Dr?

Juicylucy
07-03-18, 08:29 PM
Ok I will and there 9 and 4. At the minute withball this feeling how crap I am I wanna rip some 1s head off. And yeah they are x

Suzi
07-03-18, 08:47 PM
You sound angry - what at?

Juicylucy
07-03-18, 08:49 PM
I am angry. Feel like I'm getting no where. Like.ive hit a brick wall and can't get over it.

Suzi
07-03-18, 08:54 PM
But you aren't going to get anywhere being angry. It's not good for you or your children.

Paula
07-03-18, 09:16 PM
It’s not a brick wall, hunni, but it is a bit of a maze and you need to navigate your way around. I’ve pm you some details which might help

Juicylucy
07-03-18, 10:44 PM
How is it possible to navigate roumd.if nobody is willing to help. Thanks paula. And suzi i no.its not good but feel lile.nobody is listening to me

Juicylucy
08-03-18, 01:43 PM
When your head has well and truly fell off and rolled down the road.

Suzi
08-03-18, 02:22 PM
Are you keeping a mood diary?

Juicylucy
08-03-18, 03:07 PM
Do I just right down how I'm feeling in each day.

Paula
08-03-18, 03:23 PM
Yep, it’s a great tool :). You can do it here or have a notebook with you to jot it down. It also helps to note what you’ve been doing that day, who you’ve spoken to, what you’re eating, any exercise, any appointments you’ve had - all of those and more can change your mood. It helps you work out your triggers

Juicylucy
08-03-18, 03:54 PM
How can I do.it here

Suzi
08-03-18, 04:57 PM
It's not really something you can do easily here, but you can do it in a notebook or there are apps for a phone which might help.

Juicylucy
08-03-18, 05:49 PM
Brill thankyou. Really not feeling it today.

Suzi
08-03-18, 09:06 PM
What have you been doing today?

Juicylucy
09-03-18, 12:11 PM
Hi. Today is another day. Thought bit negative today. Challenged my thinking. Counted my blessings.

Paula
09-03-18, 12:30 PM
That’s really good to hear, well done :)

Juicylucy
09-03-18, 01:06 PM
Could be a different story tomorrow

Suzi
09-03-18, 07:06 PM
I'll borrow Paula's phrase and tell you not to "borrow trouble" from tomorrow. Tomorrow might be even better.....